nancysclassname
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In 2000 I was divorced and gained physical custody of two of my five children. The older boys decided they wished to live with their father the two youngest decided to live with me. (Not my choice I wanted all five and felt I had the better home life to raise them. But stuck between a rock and a hard place I agreed to the arrangement)
Since that time I remarried. The oldest (17 in November)of those I had custody of did not like his step father or the rules of our home. Over a cell phone issue he left home. I would not allow him to have one. His father picked him up and he claimed to be going to live with his father. His older brother 18, picked up all his belongings at my home the following day.
His father is now living out of the country working in Europe with the UN peace keeping force in Kosovo.
My 17 year old I believe is now residing only with his 18 year old sibling in his fathers home. I was lead to believe that the 18 year old was in fact going to go live with his grandmother when his father left and assumed that this would be the case with the 17 year old. I doubt greatly that this is the case.
Fighting to get my son back in the home will only cause more distress and hatred between us. He has threathened in writing (email) and verbally to runaway if I force him to return home legally or not. So while I am not happy about the situation I see no way for me to resolve this issue other than to simply allow the situation to remain as is.
Keep in mind that I am being lied to consistantly. I am also being blocked from access to information on my childs where abouts by both the child and the father. I have no idea where he is living or going to school. I suspect that he is registered in school (which is good) but neither I nor his father did the registering.
The legal issues here I need to address are:
1. Is there any criminal issues that I could be charged with in this situation?
for example: I suspect that he is living with his 18 year old brother and not his father or grandmother. I have no idea where they are getting money to live, if they are eatting or if they are getting medical care when needed. If it should happen that he is not being properly cared for am I criminally libel in this case?
2. I am not being given the correct information on his whereabouts. The only address I was given is incorrect. He does not reside there and never has. Can the father and child legally block my access to his whereabouts and condiction? If not is there a way for me to get this information? The only reason at this point that I need this information is to ensure that he is not being neglected.
3. Since I do not have control over him and he is not living in my home is there any civil liability that I maybe responsible for? I suspect he is looking to get his drivers license. He is certainly not responsible enough for this and I can forsee him having an accident that causes damage to someone elses property. The vehicle he had access to would of course not be mine but his fathers.
I do not mean to sound harsh or uncaring because I am far from it. I have been heartbroken since the night he left my home. However, because of the circumstances that includes his fathers brainwashing, lying and playing on their hormonal teenage male egos it is impossible for me to make any of them listen to reason or truth so I am giving up trying. He will need to come to the truth on his own terms later.
His father once told me he would ruin me because I divorced him after an untold number of affairs on his part. This of course is the method he has chosen to do so. What better way then to take away the children a woman loves dearly. I need to now concentrate on raising the only child I have left. Fighting in Court to get the 17 year old is not conducive to a happy home life and at 18 he could voluntarily leave again if he wished. What I need to do now is protect myself mentally and legally.
Any help you can afford would be greatly appreciated. Thank You.
In 2000 I was divorced and gained physical custody of two of my five children. The older boys decided they wished to live with their father the two youngest decided to live with me. (Not my choice I wanted all five and felt I had the better home life to raise them. But stuck between a rock and a hard place I agreed to the arrangement)
Since that time I remarried. The oldest (17 in November)of those I had custody of did not like his step father or the rules of our home. Over a cell phone issue he left home. I would not allow him to have one. His father picked him up and he claimed to be going to live with his father. His older brother 18, picked up all his belongings at my home the following day.
His father is now living out of the country working in Europe with the UN peace keeping force in Kosovo.
My 17 year old I believe is now residing only with his 18 year old sibling in his fathers home. I was lead to believe that the 18 year old was in fact going to go live with his grandmother when his father left and assumed that this would be the case with the 17 year old. I doubt greatly that this is the case.
Fighting to get my son back in the home will only cause more distress and hatred between us. He has threathened in writing (email) and verbally to runaway if I force him to return home legally or not. So while I am not happy about the situation I see no way for me to resolve this issue other than to simply allow the situation to remain as is.
Keep in mind that I am being lied to consistantly. I am also being blocked from access to information on my childs where abouts by both the child and the father. I have no idea where he is living or going to school. I suspect that he is registered in school (which is good) but neither I nor his father did the registering.
The legal issues here I need to address are:
1. Is there any criminal issues that I could be charged with in this situation?
for example: I suspect that he is living with his 18 year old brother and not his father or grandmother. I have no idea where they are getting money to live, if they are eatting or if they are getting medical care when needed. If it should happen that he is not being properly cared for am I criminally libel in this case?
2. I am not being given the correct information on his whereabouts. The only address I was given is incorrect. He does not reside there and never has. Can the father and child legally block my access to his whereabouts and condiction? If not is there a way for me to get this information? The only reason at this point that I need this information is to ensure that he is not being neglected.
3. Since I do not have control over him and he is not living in my home is there any civil liability that I maybe responsible for? I suspect he is looking to get his drivers license. He is certainly not responsible enough for this and I can forsee him having an accident that causes damage to someone elses property. The vehicle he had access to would of course not be mine but his fathers.
I do not mean to sound harsh or uncaring because I am far from it. I have been heartbroken since the night he left my home. However, because of the circumstances that includes his fathers brainwashing, lying and playing on their hormonal teenage male egos it is impossible for me to make any of them listen to reason or truth so I am giving up trying. He will need to come to the truth on his own terms later.
His father once told me he would ruin me because I divorced him after an untold number of affairs on his part. This of course is the method he has chosen to do so. What better way then to take away the children a woman loves dearly. I need to now concentrate on raising the only child I have left. Fighting in Court to get the 17 year old is not conducive to a happy home life and at 18 he could voluntarily leave again if he wished. What I need to do now is protect myself mentally and legally.
Any help you can afford would be greatly appreciated. Thank You.