stabbed in the back

[jbird]

I am 18 years old and I live in central Illinois. My 18 yearold ex-girlfriend is going to have my baby in about 6 months. We had lived together for about 9 months(January 2000-October 2000) before we found out she was pregnant. When I told her I would not marry her, she left me and moved to Texas to live with some of her relatives. Now she tells me that she has a good job making $20/hour and a nice apartment, but I am not sure I believe her(she got fired from 2 out of 3 jobs that she had while I knew her and the only reason she was living with me was because her parents kicked her out). Now I feel as if she had been using me all along.

Does Anyone Know:

- I want soul custody of my child, but I don't want her to be totally left out of this baby's life. Is there any probability that I will be awarded custody?

- What actions should I take to prepare for a legal custody battle?

- Will the fact that she moved out of state after I knew about the baby have any affect on the outcome?

- What can she do to me and what can I do to protect myself?

I appreciated your time. Thank You.

 

[MySonsMom]

So are you saying that because you feel that she used you that you want to take the child? Umm, do you have anything on her regarding her parenting? Because that is what this is about. Not about if she has gotten fired from some jobs, or that she got kicked out of her home etc..If you don't have proof that she will be bad parent or if the child will be in danger in her care you do not have a chance at sole custody.

 

[LadyBlu]

I am 18 years old and I live in central Illinois. My 18 yearold ex-girlfriend is going to have my baby in about 6 months. We had lived together for about 9 months(January 2000-October 2000) before we found out she was pregnant. When I told her I would not marry her, she left me and moved to Texas to live with some of her relatives. Now she tells me that she has a good job making $20/hour and a nice apartment, but I am not sure I believe her(she got fired from 2 out of 3 jobs that she had while I knew her and the only reason she was living with me was because her parents kicked her out). Now I feel as if she had been using me all along.

Does Anyone Know:

- I want soul custody of my child, but I don't want her to be totally left out of this baby's life. Is there any probability that I will be awarded custody?

- What actions should I take to prepare for a legal custody battle?

- Will the fact that she moved out of state after I knew about the baby have any affect on the outcome?

- What can she do to me and what can I do to protect myself?

I appreciated your time. Thank You.

*Soul Custody isnt going to happen, not in TX unless she is a drug addicted abuser. Beings she is in TX that is where the court battle will take place.

* Preparing for what type of Court Battle?
For Child support and visitation you should gather all your pay stubs together and your IRS returns for the past 3 yrs, that is what they will base your support amount on.

* The fact that she moved after telling you about the baby will have no bearing on anything as you had already stated you told her you wouldnt marry her so she did what she had to do to take care of herself and her unborn child financially.

* What she can do to you is receive Child support and medical paid for by you for the upbringing of the child.
What should you do to protect yourself? Well a little late for it now but a condom at the time of conception would have been beneficial to you.

Now this is what you can expect from the state of TX..
You will be obligated to support your child financially and with medical insurance.
You will receive visitation and possibly at most Joint Custody.
Visitation will probably be supervised until the child reaches the age of 1yr old, then unsupervised for periods of up to 8hrs until the child reaches 3 yrs of age.

Hope this helps you out.

 

[LegalBeagle]

I am 18 years old and I live in central Illinois. My 18 yearold ex-girlfriend is going to have my baby in about 6 months. We had lived together for about 9 months(January 2000-October 2000) before we found out she was pregnant. When I told her I would not marry her, she left me and moved to Texas to live with some of her relatives. Now she tells me that she has a good job making $20/hour and a nice apartment, but I am not sure I believe her(she got fired from 2 out of 3 jobs that she had while I knew her and the only reason she was living with me was because her parents kicked her out). Now I feel as if she had been using me all along.

Does Anyone Know:

- I want soul custody of my child, but I don't want her to be totally left out of this baby's life. Is there any probability that I will be awarded custody?

- What actions should I take to prepare for a legal custody battle?

- Will the fact that she moved out of state after I knew about the baby have any affect on the outcome?

- What can she do to me and what can I do to protect myself?

I appreciated your time. Thank You.

Further to LB2 response.. here is the simple reply..

1. No
2. Save approx 3k for attorney fees and then watch it disappear.
3. No
4. She can petition for Child Support and make you pay for the next 19 years. You can do nothing about this.

 

[laure]

The woman usually always gets primary custody. I would be worried about the fact that she moved out of state. By the time the baby is born she would have established residency and with her having a good job, chances are she will be able to relocate. The visitaion is going to be a little difficult with you being in one state and her in the next, I would focus on setting up your visitation schedule with her so you can still be a part of the baby's life. I would try to set up a visitation plan with her and get it in writing, or hire a lawyer .When the baby is born it might be more difficult to do this and especially being in two different states its going to take sometime to fight this, and with the baby being so young you might not be able to see the baby for awhile.

 

[LegalBeagle]

The woman usually always gets primary custody. I would be worried about the fact that she moved out of state. By the time the baby is born she would have established residency and with her having a good job, chances are she will be able to relocate.

Since the child is not born, she can move where she wants.. the MOMENT the child IS born, that state has jurisdiction. No residency is required for this issue.

 

[LadyBlu]

The woman usually always gets primary custody. I would be worried about the fact that she moved out of state. By the time the baby is born she would have established residency and with her having a good job, chances are she will be able to relocate.

Adding to what LB already stated in previous post:
she moved out of state because he broke up with her and would not marry her. She is still living in a free country(at least for the moment, that could change tommorrow) where she can move to wherever she needs to do find a job and have family that will support her through this.

 

[LegalBeagle]

The woman usually always gets primary custody. I would be worried about the fact that she moved out of state. By the time the baby is born she would have established residency and with her having a good job, chances are she will be able to relocate.

Adding to what LB already stated in previous post:
she moved out of state because he broke up with her and would not marry her. She is still living in a free country(at least for the moment, that could change tommorrow) where she can move to wherever she needs to do find a job and have family that will support her through this.

Adding to what LB2 said, we do not want Bush and you can keep him in Texas. Thank you.

 

[LadyBlu]

The woman usually always gets primary custody. I would be worried about the fact that she moved out of state. By the time the baby is born she would have established residency and with her having a good job, chances are she will be able to relocate.

Adding to what LB already stated in previous post:
she moved out of state because he broke up with her and would not marry her. She is still living in a free country(at least for the moment, that could change tommorrow) where she can move to wherever she needs to do find a job and have family that will support her through this.

Adding to what LB2 said, we do not want Bush and you can keep him in Texas. Thank you.

replying to what LB said:
Why do you think all those Texans voted for him? To get him the H*LL out of TX.. You can have him.. (Your Welcome)

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