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[usti_digadali]

I am a 20 year old female. I reside with my mother and her boyfriend. We live in the state of Michigan. My mothers boyfriends daughter who is 15 years old, would not stop coming to my workplace hasseling me and my co-workers. She has been in a lot of trouble, on probation now and is in detention hall (not related to this). I went to circut court and asked for a Personal Protection Order. It was asked for just my workplace because my mothers boyfriend has visitation and all I wanted was to get her to stop coming to my workplace. The judge gave me the order but it was full force not just for work. Because of this his daughter can not visit him, she is not allowed here. His ex is threatening to take him to court to force him to have visitation, and of course this comes after the order was granted by the judge in full. I am wanting to get the order amended for just the workplace. If I do this does she have anything she can take him to court for? Is visitation granted by a court in a divorce a privliage, or a demand? In other words does he have to have visitation if he doesn't want to? She causes a lot of trouble when she is here. I told them I would get the order changed to just be for the worplace.

Now my moms boyfriends ex is threatening him and me to drop the order totally because she does not want it on her daughters record. If I do not, she is threatening to take me to court.
Question: Can she take me to court to get me to drop it? Or can she just ask within the 14 days for a hearing on the matter. Can she have a lawer represent her in this hearing? Is a PPO on your record forever or is it removed when you turn 18?
I know I can file to have the order changed, but no one can guarentee she will not show up again. Would it be wise to drop it totally? Even knowing I'd be pulled into court by his ex wife if I don't and only ask for the chage to workplace only?

I would appriciate any help you can give here. This is tearing my family apart. And I do not have money enough to get a lawyer. Thank you
Usti

 

[No lo gonna go]

A PPO does not go on anyone's "record". It is filed in the courts.

It sounds like the protective order you have is temporary, and it's validity will be determined at a later hearing by a judge or magistrate. If so, he will decide on it's provisions at that time, based on the evidence presented at that time. Of course she can have an attorney represent her.

Visitation is indeed a right/privilege, and cannot be forced upon someone (this is not the same as court-ordered counseling or therapy).

Bottom line- you do what you need to do to keep yourself safe...although I'd have to wonder what a 15 year old is doing that is so threatening to you....but I suppose the judge will decide that. If it's just a problem at your work, why doesn't the owner/manager of the joint take steps to keep her out?

 

[usti_digadali]

Thank you for your response. Bottom line here is that I need to keep my job from being terminated. Attempts have been made by hostipal security where I work to keep her out and although warned, she continues to show up, giving every excuse why she is there to security other than looking for me. Although many others have shown and are proof that she goes floor to floor looking for me and asking where I can be found.

I have recieved a hearing date and am in process of getting my ducks in a row so to speak with witnesses and written statements from my boss and co-workers.
All I am seeking is for something to protect me from loosing my job. And restraining her from being there trying to find me is the best option. Because of the strain on my mom, her boyfriend, and my sibblings, I have made arrangements to move out on my own.

I was threatened by my mom's boyfriend and his ex to drop the PPO or move on and I am do so. My mom is fully in support of my decision to not drop this. But I guess now it will be up to a judge to make the final decision. Again thank you for your comments.