What is the name of your state? Illinois, but my mother was in Iowa
When a relative lied to the nursing home staff and told them my sister was dangerous and should not be alone with my mother, the staff told my sister to leave. When she refused, as my mother was dying, the staff called the police into the room to my mother's bedside and threatened to handcuff my sister.
I live two hours away from the nursing home. I've had problems with this same relative for many years, and once had an attorney tell her to allow me to visit my mother alone and stop standing over me. Sensing I might have a problem with the nursing home staff, I called there to see if my trip there would be wasted.
I was told by the staff nurse this other relative had "financial responsibility" (not true) and I could not visit. In fact she said I had to get this relative's permission to visit my mother, or the permission of the nursing home social worker. When I called the next day, my mother had died and so I never got to see her alive again, nor did my sister.
When I have visited the nursing home in the past, I didn't have a single problem. How can they bar me? How can they call the police on the word of this interfering relative? When I spoke to the administrator, he said he had no knowledge, and when my sister spoke to him, he patronized her and finally said she was shouting, which she was not.
Is this stalking, to insist on standing over our visits to our mother? As I said, I've had the problem for years. The relative was interrupting my conversations with my mother to the point of total disruption when I finally saw a lawyer. My mother was extremely old and not able to protest. Is this slander or libel to tell relatives and staff that our siblings and my sister are crazy? All of us concerned are senior citizens. My sister is very upset that the police were so rude to her, the relative lied and the staff believed the relative and not her side.
SixthOne
When a relative lied to the nursing home staff and told them my sister was dangerous and should not be alone with my mother, the staff told my sister to leave. When she refused, as my mother was dying, the staff called the police into the room to my mother's bedside and threatened to handcuff my sister.
I live two hours away from the nursing home. I've had problems with this same relative for many years, and once had an attorney tell her to allow me to visit my mother alone and stop standing over me. Sensing I might have a problem with the nursing home staff, I called there to see if my trip there would be wasted.
I was told by the staff nurse this other relative had "financial responsibility" (not true) and I could not visit. In fact she said I had to get this relative's permission to visit my mother, or the permission of the nursing home social worker. When I called the next day, my mother had died and so I never got to see her alive again, nor did my sister.
When I have visited the nursing home in the past, I didn't have a single problem. How can they bar me? How can they call the police on the word of this interfering relative? When I spoke to the administrator, he said he had no knowledge, and when my sister spoke to him, he patronized her and finally said she was shouting, which she was not.
Is this stalking, to insist on standing over our visits to our mother? As I said, I've had the problem for years. The relative was interrupting my conversations with my mother to the point of total disruption when I finally saw a lawyer. My mother was extremely old and not able to protest. Is this slander or libel to tell relatives and staff that our siblings and my sister are crazy? All of us concerned are senior citizens. My sister is very upset that the police were so rude to her, the relative lied and the staff believed the relative and not her side.
SixthOne