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[lillith]

Alabama
I am a military member stationed overseas. I asked my husband for divorce in May, when we were seperated (not legally). He agreed to file for us, and I sent him the money to cover all expenses, and then some. I had the papers signed and returned by NOV 13th. Up until a week ago, I was thinking that it was taking a while to get through the AL Judicial System. After calling his lawyer for the status, I learned that he never came in to sign the papers. I cannot get him to go in and sign the papers. I will be able to prove infidelity on his part if I take him to court and sue for a divorce.

Would I need to obtain a lawyer from my current location, or would I have to find one in Alabama?
How much should this cost me?

I am in the military, therefore I have to uphold certain standards in my current rank. Since this has all gone to shambles, my boss' are holding me personally responsible for neglect of personal matters. This can keep me from gaining rank in the future. This will cause poor performance reports that will go into my personal records.
When I sue, I plan to go for everything I can.
Does this apply to defamation of character, and or pain and suffering?

Thank you, any and all advice is appreciated.

 

[Tigres]

Is Alabama your home state on record with the military?

Tig

 

[lillith]

I apologize for leaving that information out. My home of record according to the military is Arizona. It is where I came into the service. My state residency is Texas, I plan to retire there. His home of record is in Alabama. Since I have been overseas, and stationed far away from either of these states, I did not meet the residency requirements to file for divorce. That is why he filed. I simply, could not.

 

[Tigres]

Being stationed through the military overseas does not forfeit your residency in your state. (If you were registered to vote, you would be likely to realize that? *s*) Did you establish residency in Texas? (Ie live there for at least 6 months, get a TX drivers license, etc) If you have, then you can file in Texas. If you haven't and you haven't established residency elsewhere, then Arizona would be the appropriate place.

Don't take my word for it. Start by talking to base legal. (Don't ask for help with the other legalities, they generally are useless...) But do ask for the sections and codes that let you know where you are able to file.

Tig