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mrunninbout
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From Missouri...My step father sexual abused me approx. 20 years ago. There was never any sexual contact but numerous inappropriate situations while I was at home. Immediately after my wedding my mother and step father divorced. I haven't seen him for approx 10-12 years and it was only the one time. He is possibly attending my brother's wedding in a couple of weeks. This is not his biological child. My brother doesn't really want him to be there but they did have a much better relationship than I did. My question is what is the time period that I could press charges against this man for what he did to me? I fully believe that he is only attending the wedding to continue some mind games with me, my mother, brother and father. I am tempted to contact this man and tell him that if he attends this wedding that I will press charges against him for what he did to me. His family believes that I made everything up. Actually, I don't know that they even know everything that happend. I don't really want to do all of this but I am having some anxiety about being around him again after all this time. Plus there are members of my family and friends that I don't want them to have the opportunity to be near him. I feel that they may let their emotions over ride their common sense and there may be words and possibly punches exchanged with this man. Basically, I don't want my children to ever see him, let alone be in the same room with him. He lives 12 hours away from me and we never have any reason to talk or come into contact with each other. I try to forget what has happened and let it be. That's what I really want but I don't want to take the chance of there being a scene and I am really suprised about how much this is all bothering me about possibly being in the same area with him. I almost feel like a rape victim might feel when having to come into contact with her perpetrator. Can I still press charges after this amount of time? And if there wasn't any sexual contact is that such a minor thing that it wouldn't be worth it? Basically, I want to know if I contact this man by phone and tell him that he if he shows up I will begin the process...and if he checks this out with an attorney, I don't want it to be an empty threat...I want to know that it is something I can do.