NY Ok after reading several posts on the fact that you can't "will" away your children, I have a little twist on this. My X openly admits that if I were to die that he couldn't take care of our children, as he had one before we married and is creating more since we divorced, has no real living arrangements (lives with mom and girlfriend, none of them work), and can't pay any of the support ordered to the other mother or myself as he can't hold down a job. He agrees completely that the children should remain with my current husband. Is there any way that this could be arranged? And if so, what are the chances of the paternal grandparents fighting this arrangement?