Suicide attempt after bad news - PA

[Bethy]

PA
My 21 y/o daughter is going to court (we're in a continuance now) within the next few months. She is being charged w/ possession (pot), intent (scale & money) and this isn't her first dealing regarding pot, but the intent is obviously the kicker. She was in jail for 2 days when her dad bailed her out and she did go to 1 outpatient meeting at a drug facility the following week (big deal in my opinion)

Last week she found out that they weren't going to drop the felony charges and she OD'd on her prescription meds. She's been under psych care for over 4 years, but not with a whole lot of success med. wise. She is currently in a Mental Health facility for another few days and is begging for her dad or me (divorced) to take her out on an AMA (against medical advice). I was the originator of the 302 and this was her 4th attempt in the past 4 years, all w/ prescription meds. This is the closest she came to not making it. She denies everything (it was an accident, the blood tests came back wrong, I've f***** up her life etc., says she does NOT drink, she will be worse when she gets out, etc.) She was dually diagnosed w/ bi-polar, borderline pers., ADHD and alcohol addiction. Her dad is willing to AMA her if "I" take her home...huh? My tough love counselor (I've been seeing for 18 mths) tells me she needs 30-90 day in-treatment but she's resistant to everyone and is only willing for 3 day/week out-patient and is currently trying to sue the hospital that saved her life and the current facility for her "rights" being taken away (it's a locked facility)

While I was getting clothes for her (she does not live with me), I found a WAD of $ and a ledger of who owes her. After putting 2 & 2 together, her main selling wasn't pot, but the narcotics (prescription drugs) she was getting legally, but not taking. I also saw paper where she was trying to forge a prescription. And last, but not least, she works/ed (not final yet) at a pharmacy! I want to bring this info to her lawyer, but fear she won't get the true help she needs if it's destroyed. I want to do what is best for her. I need some advice instead of using my fuzzy beat-up brain.

 

[CourtClerk]

Take the info to the prosecutor.

 

[racer72]

I want to do what is best for her. I need some advice instead of using my fuzzy beat-up brain.

Give everything you found to the police/prosecutor. Let your daughter face the consequences of her actions. Maybe she will learn that Mommy and Daddy can't bail her out of every situation and she has put herself in will make her realize she needs to straighten up. Involuntary commitment sounds like it's what she needs at this time.

 

[penelope10]

Give everything you found to the police/prosecutor. Let your daughter face the consequences of her actions. Maybe she will learn that Mommy and Daddy can't bail her out of every situation and she has put herself in will make her realize she needs to straighten up. Involuntary commitment sounds like it's what she needs at this time.

Here's what I'd do--I'd ask the current hosp. about 30-90 day treatment centers and then have her involuntarily committed to one of these centers before she gets out of the hospital.

While I do agree that she should face the music legally, right now, she needs further treatment. I'd give the police/prosecutor the info after placement has been found for daughter.

Attempting suicide is something that should be taken extremely seriously. This is daughter's fourth or fifth attempt. She needs to be in a place equipped to deal with a suicidal person with her issues.

Don't mean to be disrespectful to other posters, just a parent who has been there.

 

[tranquility]

Did you move any of the evidence or did you just see it and leave it there?

 

[Bethy]

Just left it there....except

I took the cash (her lawyer told me to as she already had stuff stolen by "friends") but left everything else. Later, an aunt (one who'd been there, done that) told me I shouldn't have left it there in case there was some sort of warrant. Lawyer knows everything now. I did 302 (involuntary admittance) her into a behavioral/mental facility after the Hospital. Court at hospital 302'd her for another 7 days. She was let out yesterday w/ a court-committed 5-day/week partial day program for 2 weeks. Meds are not working well (she's now 'hearing' things) as her diagnosis' are a bad combo. for meds. Court date is continued until who knows when at this point.

I'm still doing the tough-love route, but when it's been 4 years, under psychiatric care and the doctors aren't prescribing her the right stuff (and none believed she was bi-polar until now) at $180 a visit (not in-network at this point as the in-networks didn't work either) I'd rather see her in a facility - yes, she can be manipulative, but I want her healthy mentally first. I'm just mad at everything (the whole 4 yrs route too) right now, sorry.

 

[penelope10]

I took the cash (her lawyer told me to as she already had stuff stolen by "friends") but left everything else. Later, an aunt (one who'd been there, done that) told me I shouldn't have left it there in case there was some sort of warrant. Lawyer knows everything now. I did 302 (involuntary admittance) her into a behavioral/mental facility after the Hospital. Court at hospital 302'd her for another 7 days. She was let out yesterday w/ a court-committed 5-day/week partial day program for 2 weeks. Meds are not working well (she's now 'hearing' things) as her diagnosis' are a bad combo. for meds. Court date is continued until who knows when at this point.

I'm still doing the tough-love route, but when it's been 4 years, under psychiatric care and the doctors aren't prescribing her the right stuff (and none believed she was bi-polar until now) at $180 a visit (not in-network at this point as the in-networks didn't work either) I'd rather see her in a facility - yes, she can be manipulative, but I want her healthy mentally first. I'm just mad at everything (the whole 4 yrs route too) right now, sorry.

I understand your frustration, it's hard dealing with an ill child, especially when it comes to a mental illness. It's often hard to get the meds right.

Where is your daughter staying now as she is in a partial day program?

 

[Bethy]

same room

Currently she's still renting the same room but is looking for a new place. She is in the midst of changes in every area of her life due to this. The facility is about an hour away so she has a good 5 hours used up between traveling and the facility. She can't live w/ me or her dad due to her inability to follow "rules"