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Th3TechGirl

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Louisiana. My ex-husband and I have been divorced since 2013. Because of my medical issue that occurred from my ex as well as the date the clerk of courts put on the paperwork, I could not make it to court and the court automatically ruled in his favor of he having full custody and I am to pay child support and can see my daughter but under supervised orders. Everything has been going fine until recently when my ex has started acting unusual and is nice one moment and the next he is violent. He wants me to have my daughter on my days off from work but because of his sudden violent bursts of fits, I am afraid that if I do, he will turn around and file a kidnapping report. I do not want to be around my ex as he scares me and I do fear for my life around him. My current husband does not want him on the property and my ex stated that I can not see my daughter if he is not allowed on the property. My question is, because it is a judge order on the supervised visitation, should I allow my ex-husbands wish and let her stay the night with me? I can not afford an attorney and the legal aid attorney can not take my cause as they represent my ex. I don't know what to do.
 


Just Blue

Just Blue

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Th3TechGirl said:
Louisiana. My ex-husband and I have been divorced since 2013. Because of my medical issue that occurred from my ex as well as the date the clerk of courts put on the paperwork, I could not make it to court and the court automatically ruled in his favor of he having full custody and I am to pay child support and can see my daughter but under supervised orders. Everything has been going fine until recently when my ex has started acting unusual and is nice one moment and the next he is violent. He wants me to have my daughter on my days off from work but because of his sudden violent bursts of fits, I am afraid that if I do, he will turn around and file a kidnapping report. I do not want to be around my ex as he scares me and I do fear for my life around him. My current husband does not want him on the property and my ex stated that I can not see my daughter if he is not allowed on the property. My question is, because it is a judge order on the supervised visitation, should I allow my ex-husbands wish and let her stay the night with me? I can not afford an attorney and the legal aid attorney can not take my cause as they represent my ex. I don't know what to do.
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You and the ex need to modify the current custody order.
 
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Th3TechGirl

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Just Blue said:
You and the ex need to modify the current custody order.
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He won't do it. It right out refuses to do so. He is already doing Parental Alienation. I told him that I can not have our child over until he does have the orders change and he said that is nonsense that he can do as he pleases and that I can have her over despite that court orders but I never know when he will snap and try calling the police for kidnapping charges. I have started saving all texts and when we do talk, I record all calls now. Luckily, in my state, I do not need his permission to record.
 
Just Blue

Just Blue

Senior Member
Th3TechGirl said:
He won't do it. It right out refuses to do so. He is already doing Parental Alienation. I told him that I can not have our child over until he does have the orders change and he said that is nonsense that he can do as he pleases and that I can have her over despite that court orders but I never know when he will snap and try calling the police for kidnapping charges. I have started saving all texts and when we do talk, I record all calls now. Luckily, in my state, I do not need his permission to record.
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File a motion to modify. You don't need his cooperation to do that. If possible hire an attorney to represent you. How old are the children and how are they being affected by their fathers anger issues? Are they in therapy? What was the reason stated in the court order for supervision?



https://www.lsba.org/default.aspx
 
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Th3TechGirl

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Just Blue said:
File a motion to modify. You don't need his cooperation to do that. If possible hire an attorney to represent you. How old are the children and how are they being affected by their fathers anger issues? Are they in therapy? What was the reason stated in the court order for supervision?



https://www.lsba.org/default.aspx
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I, unfortunately, can not afford an attorney. My child is 16 and she is mixed emotions about it all. Her dad will tell me, and right in front of her, that I am a bad parent that I don't care for her and all of that garbage. It is unknown on the order for supervision and reason why. When I was mailed the decree it stated on there supervised visitation. I would have to travel a hour to the court house to file for the motion to modify, but, again as stated earlier, I can not travel due to medical condition. So far, my child is not in therapy, She is great when I am able to see her. When I do get to have her alone, I do not bring up anything. I take the time I do have with her and enjoy it and have fun. She is happy go lucky until she gets back with her dad and she gets real quiet for awhile. It usually is a day or two before I hear from her again. Her dad always monitors her phone and what not which is fine as I don't bring up problems I have with him to her. But, the real question that I am asking is still open. Should I continue to allow her over while it is suppose to be supervised visitation?
 
Just Blue

Just Blue

Senior Member
Th3TechGirl said:
I, unfortunately, can not afford an attorney. My child is 16 and she is mixed emotions about it all. Her dad will tell me, and right in front of her, that I am a bad parent that I don't care for her and all of that garbage. It is unknown on the order for supervision and reason why. When I was mailed the decree it stated on there supervised visitation. I would have to travel a hour to the court house to file for the motion to modify, but, again as stated earlier, I can not travel due to medical condition. So far, my child is not in therapy, She is great when I am able to see her. When I do get to have her alone, I do not bring up anything. I take the time I do have with her and enjoy it and have fun. She is happy go lucky until she gets back with her dad and she gets real quiet for awhile. It usually is a day or two before I hear from her again. Her dad always monitors her phone and what not which is fine as I don't bring up problems I have with him to her. But, the real question that I am asking is still open. Should I continue to allow her over while it is suppose to be supervised visitation?
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That is really a personal decision...

One should always follow the court ORDER though...especially if one has an ass for an ex.
 
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Th3TechGirl

Member
Just Blue said:
That is really a personal decision...

One should always follow the court ORDER though...especially if one has an ass for an ex.
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I agree with you on that. Me being so darn weak minded doesn't help. Thank you so much for your time and help. I do appreciate it :)
 
Just Blue

Just Blue

Senior Member
Th3TechGirl said:
I agree with you on that. Me being so darn weak minded doesn't help. Thank you so much for your time and help. I do appreciate it
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You're not weak minded...that is a myth your ex is telling you. Do not allow him to intimidate you. He only has the power you gift him...and bullies count on you being very generous.

You're welcome Hon...keep in mind that you will pretty much be done with him in 2 years. Make sure you have a party. ;)
 
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Th3TechGirl

Member
Just Blue said:
You're not weak minded...that is a myth your ex is telling you. Do not allow him to intimidate you. He only has the power you gift him...and bullies count on you being very generous.

You're welcome Hon...keep in mind that you will pretty much be done with him in 2 years. Make sure you have a party.
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You read my mind on the party bit. I actually was planning one. HAHA! I always have let people run me over as I have been scared of the actions and being knocked down. Time to become Rocky :)
 
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