Support & Visitation questions

[PickleZ]

What is the name of your state? Maryland

Here's my situation...... two questions.....

My ex-wife was released from prison, after serving 16 months, on 11.19.2004. This is her second incarceration. My sons are 13 & 14 years old and I have full, sole custody of them. To my knowledge, she does not have a job and is living with another man. In my mind, she has no incentive to find a job any time soon. Would you recommend filing for child support, or, is it a waste of time and money in this case?

My ex-wife is asking for longer visitations alone with my sons. Given her passed actions ( 2 incarcerations for theft, embezzlements, fraud, etc.), I don't feel comfortable with giving her what she wants. I currently allow her to see them in my presence only in a public place. What are your comments/opinions on this?

Thank you.

 

[stealth2]

What does your order say about visitation? And support was never ordered?

 

[PickleZ]

What does your order say about visitation? And support was never ordered?

In the order, the judge granted me full, sole custody with no set visitation order. My ex did question that, and the judge told her she can do a pro se action or hire a lawyer to contest visitation any time. Support was not addressed in that order.

 

[BL]

Isn't she on parole ? If so they should require employment.

Either way Custody/visitations and child support are separate issues.

You should file for CS. If she ever got a settlement of some sort , or miraculously come into income, you can collect on arrears.

Plus If she were on parole and ordered made to work, her pay could be garnished .

 

[PickleZ]

Isn't she on parole ? If so they should require employment.

Either way Custody/visitations and child support are separate issues.

You should file for CS. If she ever got a settlement of some sort , or miraculously come into income, you can collect on arrears.

Plus If she were on parole and ordered made to work, her pay could be garnished .

Thanks... What is your opinion on visitations. I arrange for them in a public place, they never leave my presence. I do not feel comfortable leaving them alone with this woman ( she's asking for overnights as well). Am I taking the correct actions?

 

[BL]

I think you know what you should continue to do.

The Judge has informed her IF she wishes to pursue the issues she can Petition for a modification Pro se or w/ an attorney.

It would NOT be in your or the child(s) best interest to unilaterally deviate from what the Judge has Stated.

Until anything is changed by the Court , you should keep things as they are, in my opinion.

Another thing , since these children's therapist has made some recommendation on the impact all this has/is having on the children, you should inform the therapist of the contents of the conversations the mother is having w/ the children.

The visitation issue should be an adult matter, and she should NOT be putting the children in the middle of it.

Do not allow this to continue .

 

[PickleZ]

I think you know what you should continue to do.

The Judge has informed her IF she wishes to pursue the issues she can Petition for a modification Pro se or w/ an attorney.

It would NOT be in your or the child(s) best interest to unilaterally deviate from what the Judge has Stated.

Until anything is changed by the Court , you should keep things as they are, in my opinion.

Another thing , since these children's therapist has made some recommendation on the impact all this has/is having on the children, you should inform the therapist of the contents of the conversations the mother is having w/ the children.

The visitation issue should be an adult matter, and she should NOT be putting the children in the middle of it.

Do not allow this to continue .

Thanks for the advice and taking your time to answer my concerns.

 

[SuzieWahoozie]

Did I miss something?

Maybe I am having a computer glitch or something, but I don't see anywhere that the OP mentions his children are in therapy or his ex-wife is involveing them in visitation issues.

Am I missing something?

 

[BL]

Maybe I am having a computer glitch or something, but I don't see anywhere that the OP mentions his children are in therapy or his ex-wife is involveing them in visitation issues.

Am I missing something?

Maybe my mind had a glitch, but I could swear there's tread ghost on the forum playing tricks . At any rate the OP got the reply they were looking for, and didn't question the " glitch "

 

[PickleZ]

Who's OP

Maybe my mind had a glitch, but I could swear there's tread ghost on the forum playing tricks . At any rate the OP got the reply they were looking for, and didn't question the " glitch "

Who's OP? My kids are not in therapy. I'm reluctant to let my ex have my sons for unsupervised visitation. I feel I should always be there with them. Yet, my ex is pressing for overnights and other unsupervised visitations. This is especially a problem because Xmas is coming and she wants time along with them. My ex has two felony convictions with jail sentences. And, after having spent the past 16 months in jail, I have no idea what is her state of mind. She's a sweet talking manipulative woman and I want to keep my kids as far away from her as possible. At the same time, I'm being pressed by friends and relatives to file for child support.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Who's OP? My kids are not in therapy. I'm reluctant to let my ex have my sons for unsupervised visitation. I feel I should always be there with them. Yet, my ex is pressing for overnights and other unsupervised visitations. This is especially a problem because Xmas is coming and she wants time along with them. My ex has two felony convictions with jail sentences. And, after having spent the past 16 months in jail, I have no idea what is her state of mind. She's a sweet talking manipulative woman and I want to keep my kids as far away from her as possible. At the same time, I'm being pressed by friends and relatives to file for child support.

OP means you, the Original Poster. And as you've been told, until such time as the COURT grants her visitation, you don't even have to let her see the children, or you can choose to allow it but on a supervised basis.

 

[PickleZ]

OP means you, the Original Poster. And as you've been told, until such time as the COURT grants her visitation, you don't even have to let her see the children, or you can choose to allow it but on a supervised basis.

Let me ask you this...... if my ex takes me to court for visitation, I would like to ask the court for a psych exam on her and court supervised visitation.
Do you think, given her background, the court would order these two things?

 

[stealth2]

A lot will depend on what her convictions were for and whether she could be considered a danger to the children.

 

[PickleZ]

A lot will depend on what her convictions were for and whether she could be considered a danger to the children.

She was convicted of embezzling $364,000 the first time including forging checks, etc. The second time was for the same thing only much less. The second time also violated her probation. To me, she is a con artist and not to be trusted with anything. How would the court view something like this?

 

[stealth2]

Most likely, the court will view this as not harmful to the kids. You may as well prepare yourself that, if she files for visitation, she's going to get it - unsupervised and probably overnight.