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[stacy kreighton]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? fl


Short of it, two teens have baby, broke up while girl was pregnant (she with him) he wants to be a part of babies life, she says she wants him to be a part of the babies life "down the road". He has a lawyer, waiting on DNA test to be done gets to see the baby couple hours a week at the mother's house. Her parents have control of everything. If he asks about a dr. appt the maternal grandmother says, does not have one yet.. If he asks to make the bottles, maternal grandmother has already made it. The baby mom talks to him if she see's him out somewhere but if it is on his visitation night she will not talk to him (even communitate with him about baby) in front of her parents. I am the boys mother. I know that I have no Legal rights but I am trying to help my son establish his. He wants to pay child support, and get all visitation he can. My question, will her parents being so overbearing in this situation and her not working with him on anything hurt baby Mom in court? And it will go to court because she will not agree to the baby visiting with father outside of her house. I believe that it is her parents that are telling her what to do because she still lives in their home. I want my son to handle this because it is his child but he is having a hard time fighting baby mom and her parents. his lawyer says it is a waiting game right now and that he is lucky to get to see the baby a couple hours a week upon agreement.

 

[Proserpina]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? fl


Short of it, two teens have baby, broke up while girl was pregnant (she with him) he wants to be a part of babies life, she says she wants him to be a part of the babies life "down the road". He has a lawyer, waiting on DNA test to be done gets to see the baby couple hours a week at the mother's house. [Her parents have control of everything. If he asks about a dr. appt the maternal grandmother says, does not have one yet.. If he asks to make the bottles, maternal grandmother has already made it. The baby mom talks to him if she see's him out somewhere but if it is on his visitation night she will not talk to him (even communitate with him about baby) in front of her parents. I am the boys mother. I know that I have no Legal rights but I am trying to help my son establish his. He wants to pay child support, and get all visitation he can. My question, will her parents being so overbearing in this situation and her not working with him on anything hurt baby Mom in court?

Currently your son has no legal rights to this child - he has no right to information about the baby, no right to visitation, nothing. The fact that he's actually seeing the baby is a plus for Mom, as she's not obliged to allow his involvement at all at this point.

And it will go to court because she will not agree to the baby visiting with father outside of her house. I believe that it is her parents that are telling her what to do because she still lives in their home. I want my son to handle this because it is his child but he is having a hard time fighting baby mom and her parents. his lawyer says it is a waiting game right now and that he is lucky to get to see the baby a couple hours a week upon agreement.

Your son should listen to his lawyer. Step back a bit, Mom - it's going to take time and patience is what's needed.

 

[Zephyr]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? fl


My question, will her parents being so overbearing in this situation and her not working with him on anything hurt baby Mom in court?

It could, your son's attorney should also ask for co-parenting classes.

 

[stacy kreighton]

His lawyer has asked for mediation.

He is taking a parenting class on his own. He has also sent her $$ (by check). She has not cashed. He really wants to work this out, but I do not think it will be worked out in any kind of agreement (because of her parents) what will a judge likely order as far as visitation?

 

[Proserpina]

His lawyer has asked for mediation.

He is taking a parenting class on his own. He has also sent her $$ (by check). She has not cashed. He really wants to work this out, but I do not think it will be worked out in any kind of agreement (because of her parents) what will a judge likely order as far as visitation?

Seriously, there's really no way to guess - I know it's frustrating but your son needs to keep in regular contact with his attorney and just keep trying to work with Mom.

I'm going to disagree slightly with Zephyr's post - from your initial post OP, the grandparents aren't actually doing anything unusual or out of line and the things such as them already having made the baby's bottles up is just not going to matter at all. Because Mom is allowing visitation without even so much as paternity having been established is, I believe, a definite plus for Mom. Remember, she doesn't have to do a darned thing.

Honestly, at the moment it's going to be a waiting game and I don't think anyone can second-guess your son's attorney, you know?

 

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

He has also sent her $$ (by check).

Anything he sends now is a gift. He can be ordered to pay child support and have it back dated to birth. They will NOT take into consideration any money sent in the mean time.

Suggest that son put money in the bank for now.

 

[stacy kreighton]

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Honestly, at the moment it's going to be a waiting game and I don't think anyone can second-guess your son's attorney, you know?

Definitley did not mean to come accross as second-guessing my son's attorney. He has been great.

Will the money that he is sending now really not count towards child support? Let me get this straight, when he is ordered to pay (which I fully aggree with him paying and so does he) he will/could be ordered to pay back child support from when baby was born not taking into or deducting the hundreds that he has sent her already?

How feasable is it for him to ask for joint physical custody when she will not even communicate with him?

 

[Proserpina]

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Definitley did not mean to come accross as second-guessing my son's attorney. He has been great.

Will the money that he is sending now really not count towards child support? Let me get this straight, when he is ordered to pay (which I fully aggree with him paying and so does he) he will/could be ordered to pay back child support from when baby was born not taking into or deducting the hundreds that he has sent her already?

How feasable is it for him to ask for joint physical custody when she will not even communicate with him?

That's entirely possible (the child support issue).

He'll likely get joint legal custody and ample visitation; joint physical is highly unlikely in this situation.

 

[stacy kreighton]

What do you mean by ample visitation?

 

[Proserpina]

What do you mean by ample visitation?

Eventually he's likely to get something along the lines of one overnight/per week and EOW (every other weekend) with longer periods during the summer (for example).

If he and Mom come to another arrangement though their agreement can be submitted to the court and it will become part of the actual order (provided it's reasonable).

 

[Zephyr]

not "parenting classes" - although those are good- I meant "co-parenting" classes" that will help these young parents learn how to work together

 

[Proserpina]

not "parenting classes" - although those are good- I meant "co-parenting" classes" that will help these young parents learn how to work together

That's an excellent idea - shame it can't be made mandatory for would-be parents, y'know?

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

That's an excellent idea - shame it can't be made mandatory for would-be parents, y'know?

Not just "would-be" parents. I just requested with the court that The Ex and I both be ordered to go.

I can hear the drama starting now...

 

[stacy kreighton]

I agree.... Is this something that his lawyer can ask for and then maybe the judge can order? Because I do not see her agreeing to do this. As I said her parents are pulling the strings on her side. Is this different than mediation? These two need to learn to work together on their own I AGREE!!

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

.... Is this something that his lawyer can ask for and then maybe the judge can order? ...

Yes x2...