msmagoo173
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? nj
i've been divorced about 12 yrs. daughter is 16.5. ex and i have had a decent working relationship for most of those years. daughter has visited father on alternate weekends, alternating holidays, gone on family vacations...in short, we've managed to maximize her involvement w/ both my family and his.
at this point in her life, daughter is becoming resentful of having to stop her routine and visit her father for what is now very often a contentious and unpleasant experience (father has remarried and has two young sons (3 and 1)). she has activities and interests that often conflict w/ "his time" and he is (and has been), depending on the activity, either totally or mostly, unwillingly to accomodate her needs.
her father is also becoming agitated on these activities infringement on "his time" and is becoming threatening in mentioning going back to court. saying how "we have a LEGAL agreement" that he has her on alternate weekends.
my position is that this is a dispute between our daughter and her father and that taking ME to court will do nothing to solve the problem.
my question is does my daughter have the right, at 16.5, to decide what/when visitation w/ her father will occur? i believe she still wants a relationship w/ him but would like more input in the timing and duration. i will support whatever actions SHE is comfortable taking.
btw, daughter excels in school (A student, 4 AP classes as a now junior), has many friends, is active in school clubs/activities, and has the opportunity to pursue a high level in her chosen sport (which is the main bone of contention w/ her father as he sees no value in this sport and has never fully supported her participation in it).
thank-you.
edited to add, we have, in the past, been able to "switch" weekends to benefit all parties and i've been supportive of extra time he's asked for.
i've been divorced about 12 yrs. daughter is 16.5. ex and i have had a decent working relationship for most of those years. daughter has visited father on alternate weekends, alternating holidays, gone on family vacations...in short, we've managed to maximize her involvement w/ both my family and his.
at this point in her life, daughter is becoming resentful of having to stop her routine and visit her father for what is now very often a contentious and unpleasant experience (father has remarried and has two young sons (3 and 1)). she has activities and interests that often conflict w/ "his time" and he is (and has been), depending on the activity, either totally or mostly, unwillingly to accomodate her needs.
her father is also becoming agitated on these activities infringement on "his time" and is becoming threatening in mentioning going back to court. saying how "we have a LEGAL agreement" that he has her on alternate weekends.
my position is that this is a dispute between our daughter and her father and that taking ME to court will do nothing to solve the problem.
my question is does my daughter have the right, at 16.5, to decide what/when visitation w/ her father will occur? i believe she still wants a relationship w/ him but would like more input in the timing and duration. i will support whatever actions SHE is comfortable taking.
btw, daughter excels in school (A student, 4 AP classes as a now junior), has many friends, is active in school clubs/activities, and has the opportunity to pursue a high level in her chosen sport (which is the main bone of contention w/ her father as he sees no value in this sport and has never fully supported her participation in it).
thank-you.
edited to add, we have, in the past, been able to "switch" weekends to benefit all parties and i've been supportive of extra time he's asked for.
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