Thanksgiving

[lisagr33]

What is the name of your state?TN. My court order says that I am to have our children on Thanksgiving in the odd years. This is my year to have them. Last year my ex called me to tell me that since Thanksgiving wasn't a big holiday for him he offered me to have the children. I, of course, took the offer. I have a bad feeling that since I took them last year, when it was his year, he will want them this year. I also have a bad feeling that he will refuse me to have them this year. I guess what my question is, since it is my year to have them do I just go ahead as planned even though I had them last year? If he refuses me, that is contempt, isn't it?

 

[shopgirl1227]

I am not sure of your state, but I am in NY and if one parent gives up their "weekend" or their "holiday" or anything similar, they cannot "switch" with the other parent. In your case, him giving you the kids on his year does not allow him to switch the years... he basically "gave up" his year. You could switch with him if you'd like, but I don't think it's necessary, at least not in NY. Hopefully that passes through to other states.

 

[NotSoNew]

he forfeited his holiday last year that does not entitle him to have this years to make it up, yes if he doesnt give you the children for thanksgiving that is contempt.

 

[lisagr33]

Thanks to the replies. My ex is truly a hard person to get along with. He has denied me visitation and I truly fear that he will say that since he is married now that he wants them this Thanksgiving. I am supposed to have the children every Christmas and last year I didn't get them until three days after because he took them to Virginia. He said I agreed to it which I didn't. I have the letter stating that I agreed to it but I never said he could take them.

 

[casa]

Thanks to the replies. My ex is truly a hard person to get along with. He has denied me visitation and I truly fear that he will say that since he is married now that he wants them this Thanksgiving. I am supposed to have the children every Christmas and last year I didn't get them until three days after because he took them to Virginia. He said I agreed to it which I didn't. I have the letter stating that I agreed to it but I never said he could take them.

Your court order says you have them this year~ So, you have them this year.

If the X misses a visit/holiday~ then that's on him. He chose to forfeit that visit.

Don't give him the children, if he calls the police show them your court order. If he has the children and denies you your holiday visitation, call the police and file a report. Yes, it is contempt.

 

[lisagr33]

I am the NCP so I would be the one calling the police. But that is going to make it hard with him living in SC and me in TN. We meet in NC.