If Dad is an EMT/Firefighter, he does have restrictions on when he can leave work for a personal emergency (whether it's a truly personal emergency or for a child or what have you). In fact notifying him of an emergency can be difficult at time (can't really take personal calls or texts while working at an accident scene or fire, ya know...) Unfortunately, that is a downside of the profession.He's not responding to *your emergencies* by leaving work. If there's an actual emergency with one's CHILD, one may and certainly does leave work.
Those aren't his emergencies. Not disagreeing with the fact that he may have trouble getting away from work...just making the point.First off he is the one who told me that he wouldn't be able to leave, even for emergencies with the baby. Even said he may not be able to leave when I go into labor. As for "my emergencies" as you put it one example was when my brother was shot and killed and another was me bleeding during pregnancy. He was not on calls at the either time.
Secondly I never said I expected sole custody I asked what the odds were.
None of that overcomes his fatherhood, once legally established.First off he is the one who told me that he wouldn't be able to leave, even for emergencies with the baby. Even said he may not be able to leave when I go into labor. As for "my emergencies" as you put it one example was when my brother was shot and killed and another was me bleeding during pregnancy. He was not on calls at the either time.
Secondly I never said I expected sole custody I asked what the odds were.
Heart surgeons can't run off whenever an(other) emergency arises. I've never heard of that as a "reason" for withholding custody or parenting time.Those aren't his emergencies. Not disagreeing with the fact that he may have trouble getting away from work...just making the point.
It honestly would be best to move before the baby is born. I realize that you don't want to do that, but he absolutely cannot do anything to stop you from moving before the baby is born.First off he is the one who told me that he wouldn't be able to leave, even for emergencies with the baby. Even said he may not be able to leave when I go into labor. As for "my emergencies" as you put it one example was when my brother was shot and killed and another was me bleeding during pregnancy. He was not on calls at the either time.
Secondly I never said I expected sole custody I asked what the odds were.
Well of course,then the filings and orders would have to be made in her county.It honestly would be best to move before the baby is born. I realize that you don't want to do that, but he absolutely cannot do anything to stop you from moving before the baby is born.
I agree that dad can get parenting time or partial custody, but it really would be difficult for a firefighter to have full custody if they are not married...or don't have available backup, because of their strange hours.Dads job is unlikely to prevent him from getting joint legal custody and parenting time. It also does not prevent him from having a form of physical custody. All kinds of professions out there that the individuals can't leave work for emergencies, yet they have either full or joint legal custody. Emergencies including medical can be handled without actually being there.
Both of those would make primary or full custody quite difficult.24 Hours On and 48 Hours Off
Most cities in the United States employ the 24 hours on and 48 hours off scheduling system for firefighters. This schedule requires firefighters to remain in a fire station for a 24-hour period and respond to fire calls at any time during this period. This shift is followed by 48 hours off, after which another 24-hour shift is required. Typically, this results in a firefighter working more than 50 hours per week. An average of ten of these 24-hour shifts are usually worked each month. An additional day off every month is arranged in order to comply with the Fair Labor Standards Act.
Shift Cycles
Though not as common as the 24-hour shifts scheduling system, some municipalities require that firefighters work for three to four days in a row. Shifts are generally during the daytime and are between eight and 12 hours per day. This schedule is followed by 12- to 14-hour night shifts for three to four days. Then, firefighters have three or four consecutive days off before the cycle begins again. Regardless of the type of shift worked, firefighters can expect to be scheduled on any of the year's 365 days.