That's good advice. I just called the EEOC. There was a recording stating that if you feel you've been discriminated against to leave your name, address, and phone. They would then mail you some forms. After the completed forms have been returned, they will respond within 8 weeks to let you know if you have a valid complaint. I don't know if these forms are going to have enough space to explain our circumstances totally! It's such a long story! But, we will do as you suggest and wait to see what the EEOC has to say. If it looks good, we'll take legal action. Well, at least my mind's settled on that issue. Phew!
Regarding the disability/FML. My husband went out sick on 10/8. He filed for disability on 10/11. On 11/8, the company sent my husband a letter. It stated: "Enclosed is paperwork notifying you that your medical leave has been approved under the Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLO) effective October 8. I am also writing to inform you of some issues regarding your medical leave and short term disability. As I explained to your wife, there is a 30 day elimination period before short-term disability goes into effect. Your 30 day elimination period was satisfied as of November 6, 2001. Once short-term disability has been approved by Prudential Insurance Company, your disability pay will begin as of November 7, 2001. As a result, the paycheck you will receive from Archway on November 15th will only be for two (2) days of pay (November 5th and 6th). We will take the insurance premiums for your benefits from that last check. Disability checks will be sent directly to you from Prudential...<and the letter goes on>". So, the company paid my husband sick leave from 10/8 until 11/6. Then, Prudential paid him from 11/7 until 12/31. Dec. 31 is the day the company claims his FML was over. But, if 12 weeks unpaid leave means the insurance company is paying, rather than the employer, he didn't get 12 weeks unpaid leave. He was only receiving "unpaid leave" from Prudential from 11/7 to 12/31. Technically, I would think the beginning of the FML would be from the time Prudential paid him (11/7) rather than when he was receiving sick pay (10/8-11/6). But the company claims the FML began the first day my husband was out sick (and that's what they wrote down on the form). We still never understood what the elimanation period's all about.
As far as the doctor answering their questions, they never asked him any questions. They only faxed him requesting his "medical notes". The woman at Prudential explained to me that medical notes are the notes the doctor takes during a patient's office visit. (I've never even seen him take notes!). But, he sent them some kind of notes. However, Prudential wasn't satisfied with whatever they received. Rather than contact the doctor to ask him for more specifics, they just didn't pay us anymore. Never once did they notify us to say my husband wasn't getting paid unless more information was provided. It was only when I called looking for the checks that they said the information they received wasn't sufficient. They said it didn't explain why my husband couldn't work. That's when we went into the doctor's office and told him Prudential wanted to know what prevented my husband from working during the period of Jan. 1 until the present (which was 2/1). So, he wrote the note about my husband not being able to drive. Again, rather than Prudential calling us to say the note wasn't good enough, they just simply didn't send anymore checks. Then, when I called them for the final time, they said his disability was terminated on 12/31 and we would be receiving a letter. The letter stated our right to appeal to some other person who works at Prudential.
My husband's doctor has been very hard to communicate with. It's like pulling teeth when we ask him to send Prudential additional information. He puts it on his assistant, "Sue". And believe me, Sue isn't what you call sweet. She gets very irritated when we call her. So, there's not a lot of cooperation coming from the doctor's office.
By the way, the name of my husband's company is Archway Cookies (I hope they don't see this!). Just thought I'd let you know. By the way, their main office is in Chicago. If we ever did take them to court, would it be in WV or in Chicago? Or to make things more complicated, would it be in Maryland? (We lived in MD when my husband got sick before we moved to WV in November.)