To jaimet

[Pony1]

Hi jamiet,

Thanks for your reply to my message about my ex trying to find excuses to keep my child away from me. Sounds like we are kind of in the same boat. Everything was fine with me and my ex except for everytime a girl would come into my life, and now that I'm engaged, she's just going psycho and can't handle it. The word "stepmom" is like a crucifix to a vampire. But anyways, please keep me up to date on what happens with your hearing on 11/6. Let me know how things go with you, maybe we can be of some help to each other.

 

[jamiet]

sure will. see, i dont even know the bm and she and my husband only went out for four weeks. she really hates me and dosent want me around the baby. she has no reason to try and keep me away she does everything in her power to split us apart. she tells my husband he can see his baby but he cant tell me about it and he has to come to her house alone! we dont trust her that she would not try and say he hit her or baby. we hear she is the kind of person who would lie about him just to get him in trouble so he can t see baby. we are being very weary of her. she wants him to have no part of this babys life, actually she is getting married next summer and told my husband that she will just take the support for now and when she marries he can stop paying and let her new husband adopt. like were going to just give her away after all this fight to see her. plus, how good would that be for the baby? to know her dad for a year then never see him again and be adopted just because she wants the money for this year. surly the judge will see that by her plan she isnt seeing the babys best interest here.

 

[jamiet]

sure will. see, i dont even know the bm and she and my husband only went out for four weeks. she really hates me and dosent want me around the baby. she has no reason to try and keep me away she does everything in her power to split us apart. she tells my husband he can see his baby but he cant tell me about it and he has to come to her house alone! we dont trust her that she would not try and say he hit her or baby. we hear she is the kind of person who would lie about him just to get him in trouble so he can t see baby. we are being very weary of her. she wants him to have no part of this babys life, actually she is getting married next summer and told my husband that she will just take the support for now and when she marries he can stop paying and let her new husband adopt. like were going to just give her away after all this fight to see her. plus, how good would that be for the baby? to know her dad for a year then never see him again and be adopted just because she wants the money for this year. surly the judge will see that by her plan she isnt seeing the babys best interest here.

 

[Pony1]

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by jamiet:
sure will. see, i dont even know the bm and she and my husband only went out for four weeks. she really hates me and dosent want me around the baby. she has no reason to try and keep me away she does everything in her power to split us apart. she tells my husband he can see his baby but he cant tell me about it and he has to come to her house alone! we dont trust her that she would not try and say he hit her or baby. we hear she is the kind of person who would lie about him just to get him in trouble so he can t see baby. we are being very weary of her. she wants him to have no part of this babys life, actually she is getting married next summer and told my husband that she will just take the support for now and when she marries he can stop paying and let her new husband adopt. like were going to just give her away after all this fight to see her. plus, how good would that be for the baby? to know her dad for a year then never see him again and be adopted just because she wants the money for this year. surly the judge will see that by her plan she isnt seeing the babys best interest here.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>


You shouldn't put up with what the BM is doing. My ex used to do that to me and we got fed up. We laid the ground rules and now they are followed. Ever since I put my foot down, my ex realized that we weren't playing around. I'd recommend that you read the books, "Mom's House, Dad's House" and "The Courage To Be A Stepmom"...they're both really good and deal specifically with the situation we are in. Keep me posted.

Peace.