To Mamakaeb

[mistoffolees]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Minnesota

Why are you closing your thread and ignoring the advice you've been given?

The information I gave you is 100% factually correct. A stepparent who has been in a child's life CAN petition the court for visitation and can even receive it if they meet the requirements in MN.

Furthermore, your husband has custody (I really doubt that 'WE' have custody as you claim). If he wants the stepfather to be in the child's life, he can do that. Simply say "Bob, if you want to see the kids on Saturday, you're welcome to". Dad can allow anyone he wants to see the kids unless there's a court order saying otherwise.

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Minnesota

Why are you closing your thread and ignoring the advice you've been given?

The information I gave you is 100% factually correct. A stepparent who has been in a child's life CAN petition the court for visitation and can even receive it if they meet the requirements in MN.

Furthermore, your husband has custody (I really doubt that 'WE' have custody as you claim). If he wants the stepfather to be in the child's life, he can do that. Simply say "Bob, if you want to see the kids on Saturday, you're welcome to". Dad can allow anyone he wants to see the kids unless there's a court order saying otherwise.

However, the kind of "round robin" type of visitation that they wanted to do is not something that can become court ordered.

If I understood correctly they wanted to make a formal order that the 3 dads rotate all 4 children. Not all of the adults would be defacto parents to all of the children.

To be honest, in this case it sounds like none of the dad's have actually been defacto parents to any of the children, because in each case its the dad who has had primary custody. So, while the children may have visited mom and whoever was the current stepdad at the time, they never lived with mom and whoever was the current stepdad at the time. That is not going to meet the qualifications for defacto parenting.

And each of the dads would not have been a defacto parent at all to at least one of the children, even if mom had had primary custody of all of them...assuming that any of the dad's could win a defacto parent case at all.

Dad number 1 would not be a defacto parent to any of mom's three other children.

Dad number 2 would only have been a defacto parent to mom's oldest child (if the child had lived with mom)

Dad number 3 would only have been a defacto parent to two of the children (oldest and middle child, and only if they had lived with mom.

Bottom line...the parents can do all the round robin visiting that they want to do, as long as all of the parents remain in agreement, but they are never going to get it court ordered.

 

[Silverplum]

Why are you closing your thread and ignoring the advice you've been given?

The usual reason, I'm sure.