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WILDMALA
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I was once married to a man that didn't beleive the law applied to him and took it out on me, my family, my friends, and our landlord. He stole from all of us. He was never able to keep a job longer than 2 months. He dissappeared on me and my, at the time, 6 mos old little girl.
He was found and sent to jail and I filed for temporary custody and as the judge ordered took her to see him at the jail. He got out of jail and moved in with a woman and her children whom he had been having an affair with while we were married. I filed for divorce but set up visitation so he could see our little girl. He stuck with it for only about a month and then he began the no shows and cancelled visits. Then his girlfriend called to tell me he had stolen from her and her family too. So, again, he went to jail. As much as I didn't want to, I felt I should follow the law and contacted the jail about her visiting. He did not add her to his "visitation list" so she and I were not allowed to visit.
Our divorce was final that May, when she was 1 yr old. He did not show for the hearing. I started seeing a gentleman who has been with me ever since and my daughter considers her father figure. She barely knows anything about her real father because he was never around long enough for her to know him. Teaching her about someone she never knew and who knows if she would have ever known seemed futile. As best as I could tell her is that when she was a little baby she had a different Dad.
I went back to court later that year to ask for full custody and was granted it for her safety (given his past criminal history). My now fiance is wanting to adopt her.
I have not heard from him for two years. Last October his mother called and informed me of an article in the Denver newspaper. He had started a high-speed pursuit which resulted in a multiple car pile-up with injuries. I just shook my head know once again he was back in jail. still no contact.
This past weekend I received a letter from him forwarded to me by his mother. He stated in the letter how much he missed her and wanted to see her and that he was contesting any adoption that my fiance wanted to ask for.
I know not to let him see her per the judges orders in the last custody hearing.
I am completely lost in knowing what rights, if any, he has to her any longer? Am I able to ask that he not have relations with her? She will be 4 in August. I have seen him hurt so many people, including his family, I fear that I know he will one day do it to her also.
It is so hard to sum up everything in a post. I have made calls to an attorney and am unpatiently waiting for a return call.
He was found and sent to jail and I filed for temporary custody and as the judge ordered took her to see him at the jail. He got out of jail and moved in with a woman and her children whom he had been having an affair with while we were married. I filed for divorce but set up visitation so he could see our little girl. He stuck with it for only about a month and then he began the no shows and cancelled visits. Then his girlfriend called to tell me he had stolen from her and her family too. So, again, he went to jail. As much as I didn't want to, I felt I should follow the law and contacted the jail about her visiting. He did not add her to his "visitation list" so she and I were not allowed to visit.
Our divorce was final that May, when she was 1 yr old. He did not show for the hearing. I started seeing a gentleman who has been with me ever since and my daughter considers her father figure. She barely knows anything about her real father because he was never around long enough for her to know him. Teaching her about someone she never knew and who knows if she would have ever known seemed futile. As best as I could tell her is that when she was a little baby she had a different Dad.
I went back to court later that year to ask for full custody and was granted it for her safety (given his past criminal history). My now fiance is wanting to adopt her.
I have not heard from him for two years. Last October his mother called and informed me of an article in the Denver newspaper. He had started a high-speed pursuit which resulted in a multiple car pile-up with injuries. I just shook my head know once again he was back in jail. still no contact.
This past weekend I received a letter from him forwarded to me by his mother. He stated in the letter how much he missed her and wanted to see her and that he was contesting any adoption that my fiance wanted to ask for.
I know not to let him see her per the judges orders in the last custody hearing.
I am completely lost in knowing what rights, if any, he has to her any longer? Am I able to ask that he not have relations with her? She will be 4 in August. I have seen him hurt so many people, including his family, I fear that I know he will one day do it to her also.
It is so hard to sum up everything in a post. I have made calls to an attorney and am unpatiently waiting for a return call.