transportation

[ffwifenmommy]

What is the name of your state? michigan

we have been having trouble with my step daughters mom...she thinks that we have to drive both ways..pick up and drop off we live 25minutes from her and gas is 3.09 here and then her school is an hour away...i have been trying to get it through her thick skull that it's whoever wants her drives to where they other person is...i don't mind driving two hours round trip to get her form school when it's our time to get her but then she should make the 50minute round trip to pick her up at the end of the day/weekend to get her from us!!! well she through a fit last time so i said we would see her in court and i called the courts today and they said it's in their GUIDELINES that the VISITING parent must provide transportation (THAT'S WORD FOR WORD) and i said but that doesn't say both ways and they got snotty with me and said that's what it means and your husband is the visiting parent....so I said fine send me the motion to get that changed because i know you can have it written out in the cutody papers who picks them up at what exact time and we want to do that...but she got attitude again and said that shawn has reasonable parenting time according to the court guidlines and that the guidelines say he has to provide transportation so i have to file a motion i said i know so send me the motion...and she goes state guidelines say that as long as both parents live in Michigan the visiting parent is to provide transportation (sorry i keep saying that line but she kept saying it) and i freaked out so if we lived in detroit and she lived in the upper penninsula we would have to drive 14hours round trip to get her then do it again in two days to drop her off BULL SHEET!!! can anyone help me with this...can i have that changed...granted it's that counties "guidelines" but it's our child can't we have it written in OUR custody paper who does what when?

if we move i would understand that but if she decides to move 14hours away we have to be punished this is crappy when my son's dad was alive we didn't go through courts just because i knew they would screw him and i can't stand that....but...i have heard of getting it stated in the custody papers exactly what goes on and what the "guidelines" are..are just suggestions that if the parents can't agree they just implement those...

 

[Neal1421]

What is the name of your state? michigan

we have been having trouble with my step daughters mom...she thinks that we have to drive both ways..pick up and drop off we live 25minutes from her and gas is 3.09 here and then her school is an hour away...i have been trying to get it through her thick skull that it's whoever wants her drives to where they other person is...i don't mind driving two hours round trip to get her form school when it's our time to get her but then she should make the 50minute round trip to pick her up at the end of the day/weekend to get her from us!!! well she through a fit last time so i said we would see her in court and i called the courts today and they said it's in their GUIDELINES that the VISITING parent must provide transportation (THAT'S WORD FOR WORD) and i said but that doesn't say both ways and they got snotty with me and said that's what it means and your husband is the visiting parent....so I said fine send me the motion to get that changed because i know you can have it written out in the cutody papers who picks them up at what exact time and we want to do that...but she got attitude again and said that shawn has reasonable parenting time according to the court guidlines and that the guidelines say he has to provide transportation so i have to file a motion i said i know so send me the motion...and she goes state guidelines say that as long as both parents live in Michigan the visiting parent is to provide transportation (sorry i keep saying that line but she kept saying it) and i freaked out so if we lived in detroit and she lived in the upper penninsula we would have to drive 14hours round trip to get her then do it again in two days to drop her off BULL SHEET!!! can anyone help me with this...can i have that changed...granted it's that counties "guidelines" but it's our child can't we have it written in OUR custody paper who does what when?

if we move i would understand that but if she decides to move 14hours away we have to be punished this is crappy when my son's dad was alive we didn't go through courts just because i knew they would screw him and i can't stand that....but...i have heard of getting it stated in the custody papers exactly what goes on and what the "guidelines" are..are just suggestions that if the parents can't agree they just implement those...

No, you cannot have anything done. You are not a party to this, your husband is. Your husband can try to file a motion to have it changed, but it would be up to the judge.

Who created the distince between the two houses?

 

[stealth2]

The person you spoke with at the court is not able to give you any legal advice. So what you need to do is find out exactly what form number it is you need, and request that it be sent to you. Not just "whatever the form is".

And, to repeat an oft sung refrain.... you do not get to do anything as far as modifying the current order. (And I can tell you that if my ex's wife thought she had any business pounding anything into my brain having to do with my and my ex's kids? I'd tell her to pound sand.)

 

[ffwifenmommy]

ok wow you guys are talkign this completly wrong...first off I KNOW I personally can't doing anything but i do the leg work for my husband because he can't stand dealing with her...so when it comes to filing paperwork i do it...and the only reason it is ME handling her and "pounding" it into her head is because i was in the same situation as her until my son's dad died and we were getting along and talking...and i was the one picking her up and scheduling times with her...so i was telling her what cna and can not happen with my schedule....and my husband and her can't say two words without fighiting...so since her and i were getting along her and i were discussing things...without the fighting for the childs sake....i never ever FOUGHT WITH HER...I just kept tellign her over and over that she needed to come get her....because we came got her from her....


THE WHOLE POINT OF THIS POST WAS TO FIND OUT IF YOU CAN WRITE OUT IN YOUR CUSTODY PAPERS YOUR OWN GUIDELINES....and we don't see a judge we see a mediator...and if they can't ge tit solved with the mediator then it goes onto a judge...

 

[Silverplum]

And, to repeat an oft sung refrain.... you do not get to do anything as far as modifying the current order. (And I can tell you that if my ex's wife thought she had any business pounding anything into my brain having to do with my and my ex's kids? I'd tell her to pound sand.)

Really? That's all? Pound sand?

 

[Silverplum]

ok wow you guys are talkign this completly wrong...first off I KNOW I personally can't doing anything but i do the leg work for my husband because he can't stand dealing with her...so when it comes to filing paperwork i do it...and the only reason it is ME handling her and "pounding" it into her head is because i was in the same situation as her until my son's dad died and we were getting along and talking...and i was the one picking her up and scheduling times with her...so i was telling her what cna and can not happen with my schedule....and my husband and her can't say two words without fighiting...so since her and i were getting along her and i were discussing things...without the fighting for the childs sake....i never ever FOUGHT WITH HER...I just kept tellign her over and over that she needed to come get her....because we came got her from her....


THE WHOLE POINT OF THIS POST WAS TO FIND OUT IF YOU CAN WRITE OUT IN YOUR CUSTODY PAPERS YOUR OWN GUIDELINES....and we don't see a judge we see a mediator...and if they can't ge tit solved with the mediator then it goes onto a judge...

The legal answer is that *you* can NOT do anything.

The legal answer is that *you* can NOT "pound" (and I use *your* very own word) into Mom's head.

 

[Rushia]

ok wow you guys are talkign this completly wrong...first off I KNOW I personally can't doing anything but i do the leg work for my husband because he can't stand dealing with her...so when it comes to filing paperwork i do it...and the only reason it is ME handling her and "pounding" it into her head is because i was in the same situation as her until my son's dad died and we were getting along and talking...and i was the one picking her up and scheduling times with her...so i was telling her what cna and can not happen with my schedule....and my husband and her can't say two words without fighiting...so since her and i were getting along her and i were discussing things...without the fighting for the childs sake....i never ever FOUGHT WITH HER...I just kept tellign her over and over that she needed to come get her....because we came got her from her....


THE WHOLE POINT OF THIS POST WAS TO FIND OUT IF YOU CAN WRITE OUT IN YOUR CUSTODY PAPERS YOUR OWN GUIDELINES....and we don't see a judge we see a mediator...and if they can't ge tit solved with the mediator then it goes onto a judge...

The bolded part makes no sense. How does he deal with her directly when filling out paperwork?

 

[ffwifenmommy]

ok sorry as a MARRIED couple when i say can I it means we...i talk as my husband and i as one so if you are going to be that immature about it don't read it!!!!!

 

[ffwifenmommy]

also I thought people were here to help not throw around daggers!!!!

 

[Silverplum]

also I thought people were here to help not throw around daggers!!!!

What daggers? The legal truth is a dagger?

Wow. Learn something new every day.

 

[stealth2]

Frankly? Your husband and his ex need to grow the hell up and learn how to deal with one another.

 

[Neal1421]

also I thought people were here to help not throw around daggers!!!!

No one is throwing daggers. Everyone is answering your question truthfully.

YOU cannot do anything. Your question in your origianl post referred to you, not your husband.

Now, your husband needs to grow a pair and handle this on his own.

 

[ffwifenmommy]

your bold part reply...if you read after the bold part says where it deals with her..keep reading!!!!.....the bold part that you highlighted was to comment back on the part of where people said that my husband has to file the paperwork and that my husband has to do it...i was saying all he has to do is sign at the bottom of the paperwork i sign


ONCE AGAIN CAN SOMEONE JUST ANSWER MY ORIGINAL QUESTION.... CAN YOU STATE IN THE CUSTODY PAPERS YOUR OWN GUIDELINES OF WHO PICKS THEM UP AND WHAT TIME IN THE STAT EOF MICHIGAN!!!

 

[Neal1421]

ONCE AGAIN CAN SOMEONE JUST ANSWER MY ORIGINAL QUESTION.... CAN YOU STATE IN THE CUSTODY PAPERS YOUR OWN GUIDELINES OF WHO PICKS THEM UP AND WHAT TIME IN THE STAT EOF MICHIGAN!!!

For the record, that was not your original question.

 

[fairisfair]

What daggers? The legal truth is a dagger?

Wow. Learn something new every day.

pound . . . . . pound . . . . . pound . . . . . I hear you pounding Silver, and I feel you!!