stevethomas
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? - NY
Our oldest son is 17 1/2 years old, is a drug user (mostly pot but others also), failed out of his junior year of high school, comes and goes as he pleases, will not help out at home and is generally disobedient ... based on some of this type of behavior (threats of violence, damaged property, theft, etc.) my wife had an order of protection against him requiring him to not use drugs, to go to school, obey curfew, and not be violent ... he voilated this order and spent a day in county jail ... at the subsequent court hearing he was ordered to go to out patient drug rehab ... he also was assigned a parole officer ... currently he continues to use drugs, go out all hours of the night and be a general pain ... his drug rehab councilor is telling him that, in NYS, he has a right to stay with us until he is 21 and that we have to support him ... he is using this to be even more disobedient ... believe me, we have tried everything to get him help ... unfortunately, until he realizes this is a problem, he will not fix it and we all suffer ... at this point my wife and I want him out of the house ... we are even willing to move to a different state if that is what it takes ... what can we do ??? ...
Our oldest son is 17 1/2 years old, is a drug user (mostly pot but others also), failed out of his junior year of high school, comes and goes as he pleases, will not help out at home and is generally disobedient ... based on some of this type of behavior (threats of violence, damaged property, theft, etc.) my wife had an order of protection against him requiring him to not use drugs, to go to school, obey curfew, and not be violent ... he voilated this order and spent a day in county jail ... at the subsequent court hearing he was ordered to go to out patient drug rehab ... he also was assigned a parole officer ... currently he continues to use drugs, go out all hours of the night and be a general pain ... his drug rehab councilor is telling him that, in NYS, he has a right to stay with us until he is 21 and that we have to support him ... he is using this to be even more disobedient ... believe me, we have tried everything to get him help ... unfortunately, until he realizes this is a problem, he will not fix it and we all suffer ... at this point my wife and I want him out of the house ... we are even willing to move to a different state if that is what it takes ... what can we do ??? ...