Troubled Teen: Custody Issues

[amanning]

What is the name of your state? Texas

My 12 year old son has exhibited suicidal behavior and was just released from a mental hospital. He has major emotional problems and has exhibited violent behavior towards me and his younger brother. His father does not want custody. We (stepdad & myself) are trying to find him a boys home for him to stay because he is out of control and I cannot handle him.

My worry is that his real father (who is very vindictive) will file contempt of court on me because of visitation restrictions that go with being placed in one of these boys homes.

I've tried to get CPS involved, but they said they only handle cases where the parent is abusive, not where a sibling is abusive to another sibling or the parent. I don't know what to do.

 

[Zephyr]

have you asked dad if he objects to child being sent away?

 

[amanning]

His biological father objects to anything that "makes my life easier" as he puts it. There is a gag order on his father that prohibits contact with me because of a stalking conviction when we went through our divorce. He has his family convinced that it is all my fault and was able to get him falsly convicted because I had a "fancy lawyer". His own mother who hasn't spoken to my son since January 1st, showed up for a visit at the hospital and told my son that "his father and stepmom got in a fight over him, so his dad went out and got drunk, got a DWI and thrown in jail and lost his job because the fight was about him living with them." Just to give you an idea of the mental status of that side of the family.

 

[Zephyr]

that's a lot of guilt to drop on a kid, what was she thinking

 

[Zephyr]

what type of custody do you have?

 

[LdiJ]

His biological father objects to anything that "makes my life easier" as he puts it. There is a gag order on his father that prohibits contact with me because of a stalking conviction when we went through our divorce. He has his family convinced that it is all my fault and was able to get him falsly convicted because I had a "fancy lawyer". His own mother who hasn't spoken to my son since January 1st, showed up for a visit at the hospital and told my son that "his father and stepmom got in a fight over him, so his dad went out and got drunk, got a DWI and thrown in jail and lost his job because the fight was about him living with them." Just to give you an idea of the mental status of that side of the family.

He can't have you held in contempt. You offered him custody and he refused.

If he tries to take you to court for contempt....just tell the judge that you are more than happy to turn over custody to dad.

 

[casa]

He can't have you held in contempt. You offered him custody and he refused.

If he tries to take you to court for contempt....just tell the judge that you are more than happy to turn over custody to dad.

'Zactly what I was thinking LdiJ!

 

[amanning]

I am sole conservator. He has visitation rights only. From what I understand, the step mom doesn't want the responsibility of raising kids. I drew up a paper offering him custody and had my son deliver it (he had son fooled before by telling him I wouldn't let him live with his dad) so I did this to put a stop to it. (Probably not admissable in court)

Anyways, if he does try to pull a cute one on me, if I can just offer custody in court like you said, then I can quit worrying about the legal issues.

thanks!

 

[stealth2]

I am sole conservator. He has visitation rights only. From what I understand, the step mom doesn't want the responsibility of raising kids. I drew up a paper offering him custody and had my son deliver it (he had son fooled before by telling him I wouldn't let him live with his dad) so I did this to put a stop to it. (Probably not admissable in court)

Anyways, if he does try to pull a cute one on me, if I can just offer custody in court like you said, then I can quit worrying about the legal issues.

thanks!

So you're as responsible for putting the kid in the middle as he/his family are. No wonder the kid has issues.