What is the name of your state?Michigan
My mom has a trust fund set up by my dead grandfather. She gets a check every month. it isn't very much. I beleive that the amount of the check is actually dividens from stocks. Anyways my question is in the past when my mom was really in need of money like if a crisis happened she could submit a letter to the trust people and they would give her so much money to take care of what she needed to take care of.
well my mom had a stroke in nov 2000 and is paralyzed and does not speak. my father is conservator of her estate. The problem is he won't ask the trust fund for anything. He pays for her insurance, prescriptions, durable medical equipment, and her care,( she requires 24hour care) and anything else she needs out of his pocket or he uses what little money comes from the checks each month. He always complains that he is broke and he is always bouncing checks. The problem i have is the trust is set up to take care of my mom. My mom needs to be in a nurseing home,(she lives with me and I take care of her). I have been doing this since jan of 2001. I am only 25 and have a family of my own and it is hard for me to care for my mom, especially when I can't leave her for more than a hour alone. We can't even go to the movies with our kids or do anything because she needs someone here incase something happened. My dad does come over twice a day but it's only for about 2 hours. And when he comes in the morning it's like 4am and we are all asleep. So we only get 2 hours a day free time. My dad pays me barely minimum wage. I have told him I can't afford to this anymore. I can't pay my bills and want to go to college and get a better paying job. I have asked him to go thru the trust fund to have them pay me for my mom's care at a higher rate so I can at least pay my bills and go to school, or to put her in a nurseing home and have the trust pay for that. he refuses to do it, saying it's too complicated and they will just give him the runaround. I don't know what to do. I have been doing this for going on 6years physically and emotionally it's draining I feel like i am trapped. I do have a sister and we have family in the area but no one but me is willing to care for my mom. My sister lives like 5 min away and she visits my mom like 2-4 times a year.
any suggestions? My dad is also very stubborn and old. he is reluctant to change anything and he thinks i can actually live off 200 a week. I have 3 kids, there is no way i can do this. Even with there fathers paycheck it doesn't even begin to cover our bills.
thanks,
beth
My mom has a trust fund set up by my dead grandfather. She gets a check every month. it isn't very much. I beleive that the amount of the check is actually dividens from stocks. Anyways my question is in the past when my mom was really in need of money like if a crisis happened she could submit a letter to the trust people and they would give her so much money to take care of what she needed to take care of.
well my mom had a stroke in nov 2000 and is paralyzed and does not speak. my father is conservator of her estate. The problem is he won't ask the trust fund for anything. He pays for her insurance, prescriptions, durable medical equipment, and her care,( she requires 24hour care) and anything else she needs out of his pocket or he uses what little money comes from the checks each month. He always complains that he is broke and he is always bouncing checks. The problem i have is the trust is set up to take care of my mom. My mom needs to be in a nurseing home,(she lives with me and I take care of her). I have been doing this since jan of 2001. I am only 25 and have a family of my own and it is hard for me to care for my mom, especially when I can't leave her for more than a hour alone. We can't even go to the movies with our kids or do anything because she needs someone here incase something happened. My dad does come over twice a day but it's only for about 2 hours. And when he comes in the morning it's like 4am and we are all asleep. So we only get 2 hours a day free time. My dad pays me barely minimum wage. I have told him I can't afford to this anymore. I can't pay my bills and want to go to college and get a better paying job. I have asked him to go thru the trust fund to have them pay me for my mom's care at a higher rate so I can at least pay my bills and go to school, or to put her in a nurseing home and have the trust pay for that. he refuses to do it, saying it's too complicated and they will just give him the runaround. I don't know what to do. I have been doing this for going on 6years physically and emotionally it's draining I feel like i am trapped. I do have a sister and we have family in the area but no one but me is willing to care for my mom. My sister lives like 5 min away and she visits my mom like 2-4 times a year.
any suggestions? My dad is also very stubborn and old. he is reluctant to change anything and he thinks i can actually live off 200 a week. I have 3 kids, there is no way i can do this. Even with there fathers paycheck it doesn't even begin to cover our bills.
thanks,
beth