Trying to get support payments?????/

[sday4x4]

Hi......I live in New Hampshire and am going to get married to my fiance within the next year or so. We have been going together coming up on three years now and have lived together for two. My fiance has a 6-year old son but has not recieved any payments for quite awhile now from the biological father. I believe he owes about $7,000 in back support up to this point. The biological father lives with his new wife and they have a 1-2 year old child. We have come to discover his new wife is now pregnant again and the possibility that they may go on welfare exists. We are unsure if my fiance's son's father is working but believe that he must be doing things under the table if anything. We have contacted the caseworker that handles the support and they say they will try to make contact but nothing seems to be happening. My question is how do we get him to pay on a regular basis? I myself am doing as much as possible and have been able to support my fiance and her son but feel that the biological father should be helping us out somehow. It should be noted that the biological father does not contact his son for visits or to even just talk to him over the phone. His son has seen him once this year. If he goes on welfare does that mean he doesn't have to pay? Is there a way he has to show that he is making an attempt to get a job to pay the support,or can he continue not to work and get away with it? It isn't just the issue of the money but the fact that he doesn't acknowledge this wonderful boy and gets away with what he is doing now and there is no follow up on him. Thank you

 

[LegalBeagle]

Hi......I live in New Hampshire and am going to get married to my fiance within the next year or so. We have been going together coming up on three years now and have lived together for two. My fiance has a 6-year old son but has not recieved any payments for quite awhile now from the biological father. I believe he owes about $7,000 in back support up to this point. The biological father lives with his new wife and they have a 1-2 year old child. We have come to discover his new wife is now pregnant again and the possibility that they may go on welfare exists. We are unsure if my fiance's son's father is working but believe that he must be doing things under the table if anything. We have contacted the caseworker that handles the support and they say they will try to make contact but nothing seems to be happening. My question is how do we get him to pay on a regular basis? I myself am doing as much as possible and have been able to support my fiance and her son but feel that the biological father should be helping us out somehow. It should be noted that the biological father does not contact his son for visits or to even just talk to him over the phone. His son has seen him once this year. If he goes on welfare does that mean he doesn't have to pay? Is there a way he has to show that he is making an attempt to get a job to pay the support,or can he continue not to work and get away with it? It isn't just the issue of the money but the fact that he doesn't acknowledge this wonderful boy and gets away with what he is doing now and there is no follow up on him. Thank you

He has to pay regardless.

Have you asked him if he is willing to allow the child to be adopted ? ie, for you to legally adopt the child to be yours ?

Bottom line, getting money from this person is going to be a long uphill battle.

 

[sday4x4]

Uphill battle .......but what can be done??

I could adopt as my own and intend to if that is what he wants but right now he is six and I am not sure I should make that decision for him.........my big thing is how to get his biological dad to be responsible for what he should have been doing all along.....why isn't there some sort of way that he is policed so that he can't just not work and my fiance doesn't get that help. He is doing nothing to even try. Who can you call? If you take him to court I would assume he still could not work and that we would be stuck paying the court fees.

 

[cat2young]

child support

You can take him to court, the court can order him to get a job, and the court can put him in jail, but don't ever count on getting the support on a regular basis. The court can only do so much, if he doesn't want to pay he probably won't most of the time.
Good Luck
P.S. You are not alone my ex is OVER 18,000. behind. I am taking him to court myself in dec for the 5th time. My 2nd husband is a wonderful man who has at times worked 2 or 3 jobs to help make sure we can always make ends meet and that the children have everything they need, even if their father won't.