trying to stop the cycle of deception

[Kerri123]

What is the name of your state? AR

My daughter lives in GA who is 21 years old and lived with her mother until she was 14. She then was allowed to move in with her boyfriend and his mother and baby sat his children. The whole time I was being told by her and her mother that she was babysitting then one day I get a phone call from my daughter telling me she is pregnant. After the baby was born they were still not married. My daughter began calling me complaining that her boyfirend would not marry her until he bought her a ring. So my wife and I went to a Charity auction and bought some jewlery that was from an estate. One of the items was a wedding ring. i sent it to my son n law and told him that I would like to give it to him to help him out.

I asked him not to break the ring down into another ring and save it for their daughter until he could afford to buy the ring that him and his wife wanted. Him and my daughter agree because they still wanted a ring of their own.

Now that my daughter is 21 I find out that they gave the ring to his mother as a payment for her wedding set. Her wedding set does not have the value at all compared to the ring I gave him. It really appears to me his mother knew she was getting a much better bargain.

After many years of find lies they have told me and trying to deal with my daughter especially on her struggle to tell the truth. I find out this about the ring.

I asked my daughter for it back and wrote my son n law a letter requesting the ring back.
I reminded them of our agreement and again explained to them that the lying is what I am most concerned about because it has gotten so out of hand.

My daughter is now denying ever been given a ring and my son n law seems to be standing behind his wife. His mother who was the one that told us she had the ring
is now calling us liers and the lying just gets deeper and deeper.

What legal actions can I take???

 

[CALIF-LAWPRO29]

What is the name of your state? AR

My daughter lives in GA who is 21 years old and lived with her mother until she was 14. She then was allowed to move in with her boyfriend and his mother and baby sat his children. The whole time I was being told by her and her mother that she was babysitting then one day I get a phone call from my daughter telling me she is pregnant. After the baby was born they were still not married. My daughter began calling me complaining that her boyfirend would not marry her until he bought her a ring. So my wife and I went to a Charity auction and bought some jewlery that was from an estate. One of the items was a wedding ring. i sent it to my son n law and told him that I would like to give it to him to help him out.

I asked him not to break the ring down into another ring and save it for their daughter until he could afford to buy the ring that him and his wife wanted. Him and my daughter agree because they still wanted a ring of their own.

Now that my daughter is 21 I find out that they gave the ring to his mother as a payment for her wedding set. Her wedding set does not have the value at all compared to the ring I gave him. It really appears to me his mother knew she was getting a much better bargain.

After many years of find lies they have told me and trying to deal with my daughter especially on her struggle to tell the truth. I find out this about the ring.

I asked my daughter for it back and wrote my son n law a letter requesting the ring back.
I reminded them of our agreement and again explained to them that the lying is what I am most concerned about because it has gotten so out of hand.

My daughter is now denying ever been given a ring and my son n law seems to be standing behind his wife. His mother who was the one that told us she had the ring
is now calling us liers and the lying just gets deeper and deeper.

What legal actions can I take???

My response:

First of all, you're dealing with people in Georgia who, by definition, are trailer trash. Second, you have no legal standing. You gave the ring away - - it's a gift. It's no longer yours. Third, even if you had a cause of action, the Statute of Limitations is long gone.

IAAL

 

[Kerri123]

trying to stop the cycle

Thank you for your reply.
I hate to say it especially since my two daughters live in Georgia but
I have witnessed a lot about the behaviors of people in that state and
trailer trash is a correct statment.

I am not a racisit, but where I came from most of the black people were very poor and lived on the bad side of town, but not in ga. They are some of the most educated, best dressed, best behavied people I have met. Very refreshing.

Now my white assed daughters and their mother are the ones that make GA looks so bad.

Well I feel my blood beginning to boil again, but thanks for your thoughts. I had just hope there was some way to bring a repercussion to all this.

I AM SO SICK OF THE LYING TO THE POINT I AM WILLING TO HAVE NO CONTACT WITH DAUGHTER AND MY GRANDBABIES TO KEEP THE CIAOS OUT OF MY LIFE.

 

[Kerri123]

what about this????????????

What is the name of your state? AR

My daughter lives in GA who is 21 years old and lived with her mother until she was 14. She then was allowed to move in with her boyfriend and his mother and baby sat his children. The whole time I was being told by her and her mother that she was babysitting then one day I get a phone call from my daughter telling me she is pregnant. After the baby was born they were still not married. My daughter began calling me complaining that her boyfirend would not marry her until he bought her a ring. So my wife and I went to a Charity auction and bought some jewlery that was from an estate. One of the items was a wedding ring. i sent it to my son n law and told him that I would like to give it to him to help him out.

I asked him not to break the ring down into another ring and save it for their daughter until he could afford to buy the ring that him and his wife wanted. Him and my daughter agree because they still wanted a ring of their own.

Now that my daughter is 21 I find out that they gave the ring to his mother as a payment for her wedding set. Her wedding set does not have the value at all compared to the ring I gave him. It really appears to me his mother knew she was getting a much better bargain.

After many years of find lies they have told me and trying to deal with my daughter especially on her struggle to tell the truth. I find out this about the ring.

I asked my daughter for it back and wrote my son n law a letter requesting the ring back.
I reminded them of our agreement and again explained to them that the lying is what I am most concerned about because it has gotten so out of hand.

My daughter is now denying ever been given a ring and my son n law seems to be standing behind his wife. His mother who was the one that told us she had the ring
is now calling us liers and the lying just gets deeper and deeper.

What legal actions can I take???

WHAT ABOUT A BREACH OF PROMISE?????????????

 

[margiek]

It's a ring... let it go.
It's not worth it.
She is still your daughter and yes its obvious she has hurt you.
I think you should find out why she feels she has to lie to you.

Just my advise, I'm sure not what you wanted to hear.

 

[Zigner]

WHAT ABOUT A BREACH OF PROMISE?????????????

Do you mean to say breach of contract? Just pull out your written agreement with the daughter/SIL --- oh yeah, you don't have one.

I'm sorry to say this, but you need to cut the ties that bind you.

 

[diamondstrike]

Breach of promise is still in affect in some states.
It is obivious there was an agreement at one point
then it becomes clear your kids changed.

Contact your local attorney.

On a personal level, I understand your frustrations and your desire to want your son and daughter to be honest. Your efforts are admirable to help them but it sounds like this behavior might have been going on for a very long time.

Cindy
DiamondStrke