CJane
Senior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? tx
If it's not a big deal to YOU, and only a minor annoyance, why would you even care what your attorney's opinion is? Is it all of a sudden going to become a big deal if he calls you tomorrow and says "Whoa! The judge HATES the idea of what your ex is doing. We stand an excellent chance of ROFR if we go back to court!"?So... I have been waiting for the perfect opportunity to share this with everyone. Here goes:
Today I went in to make payment on my attorney's kid's college fund, and he asked how things have been the last month or so. I said the only thing that 'annoys' me is that my daughter says she spends the night with an ex family member of stepmom's when Dad has to work at night. I even said, this is actually not a big deal but it just kind of annoys me that I'm available to have her and he sends her off to a non-family member, often for more than just one night... But you asked so I'm telling you.
He paused for a moment and then said, I have a problem with this.... If Dad is unable to exercise his access, then kiddo needs to stay with Mom and vice versa. I even commented that maybe it could be seen as a sleepover of friends or something and he said Maybe if it were once in a while but every weekend? His exact words were 'there is a difference between designating pick up and drop off to someone else, but it's quite different if your designating your access time in excess of a few hours at a time' I really thought his response would be 'oh well Dad can do what he wants on his time but that isn't what he said. He is going to confer with a judge before deciding what steps to take. So..... Of course depending on state and obviously on the judge, Mom may very well be within her right to ask that if Dad will be working while kiddo is sleeping then the access schedule should be changed. Granted we don't know what state she is in.
OP why won't you answer some of the questions you have been asked? I don't think you were at all attacked-- I think you just didn't like what you were hearing. No reason why mom shouldn't have her kiddo at home at night if Dad isn't even there to exercise his rights. Can mom not keep kiddo for dad and dad pick up kiddo on his way home from work each morning?