What is the name of your state?MI
I have a 6 mos old child, and before she was born I spoke with her dad and told him that no matter what happens between us, that is between us, and do not put our child in it. At the time he agreed. He does not pay child support, or have scheduled days to visit her. I have never pressed him about the issue. Whenever he wanted to see her I would let him come to my house and see her. I don't approve of his mother seeing her, because she drinks alot, and can be violent, and even when she doesn't drink she can still get violent. All this he is aware of and had no problem with it. Since my daughter has been born he has given me money for her 3 times. Recently he came to see her, and started on me about her seeing his mother, and I told him I already explained that and I don't want to agrue about it. Well he nip picked on everthing I was doing, and I asked him to leave. I told him if we can't talk in a civil matter, then he needs to leave because I don't want her to see this. He would not leave, and I had to call the police. When they got to my house, he made it seem as though I was a bad parent, that I have caused problems with him coming to see her, that he gives me money for her, and that is tring and I am the problem. The one police officer kinda understood where I was coming from and the other said to me that I was using my daughter as a pawn, because I didn't like his mother, and that I was tring to detate who he took our daughter around. The whole time the police were here, he was the one getting loud, and I felt like they looked at me at just another mother who was getting down on a man who was tring to be a father. I want my daughter to know her father, and his family but I don't want her to be around anyone who conducts themselves in front of a child the way the do in front of adults. I feel that his mother is the one who puts alot of this negative mess into his head and he takes it out on me, and uses our child as the reason he is upset. Until we go to court I have told him he is not allowed to come to my house, because of his actions. My thing is I don't know my rights, and how I am allowed by law to handle this situation. I just want what is best for my child. This man can barely take care of himself, and has made excuses for why he can't come see her when he has called in advance to say he was coming. He will say he is tired, or had something to do. But in front of other people he makes me look like I am the bad person. Someone please advise me on what to do, because I am unsure. Sorry this is so long, and some of it may not make sense!
I have a 6 mos old child, and before she was born I spoke with her dad and told him that no matter what happens between us, that is between us, and do not put our child in it. At the time he agreed. He does not pay child support, or have scheduled days to visit her. I have never pressed him about the issue. Whenever he wanted to see her I would let him come to my house and see her. I don't approve of his mother seeing her, because she drinks alot, and can be violent, and even when she doesn't drink she can still get violent. All this he is aware of and had no problem with it. Since my daughter has been born he has given me money for her 3 times. Recently he came to see her, and started on me about her seeing his mother, and I told him I already explained that and I don't want to agrue about it. Well he nip picked on everthing I was doing, and I asked him to leave. I told him if we can't talk in a civil matter, then he needs to leave because I don't want her to see this. He would not leave, and I had to call the police. When they got to my house, he made it seem as though I was a bad parent, that I have caused problems with him coming to see her, that he gives me money for her, and that is tring and I am the problem. The one police officer kinda understood where I was coming from and the other said to me that I was using my daughter as a pawn, because I didn't like his mother, and that I was tring to detate who he took our daughter around. The whole time the police were here, he was the one getting loud, and I felt like they looked at me at just another mother who was getting down on a man who was tring to be a father. I want my daughter to know her father, and his family but I don't want her to be around anyone who conducts themselves in front of a child the way the do in front of adults. I feel that his mother is the one who puts alot of this negative mess into his head and he takes it out on me, and uses our child as the reason he is upset. Until we go to court I have told him he is not allowed to come to my house, because of his actions. My thing is I don't know my rights, and how I am allowed by law to handle this situation. I just want what is best for my child. This man can barely take care of himself, and has made excuses for why he can't come see her when he has called in advance to say he was coming. He will say he is tired, or had something to do. But in front of other people he makes me look like I am the bad person. Someone please advise me on what to do, because I am unsure. Sorry this is so long, and some of it may not make sense!