What is the name of your state? Virginia (ex husband and step mom live in Nebraska)
Hello, I'm so sorry if this is the wrong place as I an unsure of what this falls under. Basically the situation is my exhusband and I divorced 5 years ago, it was mainly a happy and agreeable divorce as far as divorces go as we both wanted it. There was no long drawn out court process, we agreed on everything from the financials to child support/custody and just got it done. (my ex husband does have physical custody)
About 3 years ago he remarried to a woman rather quickly from another country and had only met her once in person. This was my first mistake as I mentioned to my exhusband back then (as we were still friendly and got on amicably) that it seemed a rather rushed and brash decision and unlike him. I did wish him well other than just voicing concern as we still talked as friends then. That was a flat out mistake, he went to her with what I said and since then she has not let it go. I do realize I should have said nothing at all but congratulations.
Since then however, his wife has on numerous occasions texted and called me with outlandish accusations and really, most of it was utter nonsense but it did cause problems at times with my daughter as she would drag her into it. When she was first blocked she then started calling/texting my parents and also found my work email and information and started calling/emailing me there. Which was extremely embarrassing to explain to my boss at the time. Each of these times she has received no response and blocked as much as we or the technology she reached out on would allow all of us.
My exhusband did speak to her after that and I thought all was well for a little bit as it had seemed to stop. There has been minor issues here or there where she has tried to intervene, start making a big deal about being "mom" of our daughter to medical professionals and at her school. Or she goes to my daughter and speaks to her inappropriately about issues (like two teens gossiping rather than a step mom/daughter) and I really have no idea what to do about that and doubt anything can be done as this is something solely on my ex husbands terf. There have also been times she twists things my daughter says or lies about what my daughter says, it's honestly all really out there kind of stuff that my ex husband will say he has handled when brought to his attention but it happens over and over again. But fyi just for background information leading up to what's going on to now.
I recently had some pretty big life changes with a pregnancy and now engaged, as well as being self employed and doing the best I have ever done professionally. With that came a new phone which I did not realize didn't transfer over existing blocks. To make a long story short, she has still been texting all this time and the texts are honestly nutters. I sent them along to my exhusband as this is really bananas, and blocked her again. She is seemingly obsessed with my previous marriage to her now husband, both my exhusband and I are over it and it's not something I care to rehash. My ex husband must have spoken to her because not even a day later she sent my fiance a message that she found his number in my ex husbands phone and basically told him that she needed to talk to him about me and that she needed to warn him about me etc. Once that stunt didn't work and she was talked to again by my ex husband, she is now claiming to my ex husband that I have harassed her by using an anonymous social media account and sent her racist messages. And now I'm receiving text messages threatening me from my ex husband that he claims he did not send, so I assume she has used his phone to text me then deletes the text.
So long story short, it seems like the pattern has been when she doesn't get the response she wants and is blocked by me, she finds some other way to get to me either thru my daughter, my work, my parents, and now my fiance and making up complete fairy tales to gain attention from me. Does this fall under any type of harassment protections? My exhusband has only been able to do so much and now I'm very worried about my company and what she may do as she has contacted my work before, I am worried about what she may be saying to my daughter or if my daughter will become a target of hers next. This is exhausting as this has been going on for 3 years now. Any advice or point to the right direction would be helpful, thank you.
Hello, I'm so sorry if this is the wrong place as I an unsure of what this falls under. Basically the situation is my exhusband and I divorced 5 years ago, it was mainly a happy and agreeable divorce as far as divorces go as we both wanted it. There was no long drawn out court process, we agreed on everything from the financials to child support/custody and just got it done. (my ex husband does have physical custody)
About 3 years ago he remarried to a woman rather quickly from another country and had only met her once in person. This was my first mistake as I mentioned to my exhusband back then (as we were still friendly and got on amicably) that it seemed a rather rushed and brash decision and unlike him. I did wish him well other than just voicing concern as we still talked as friends then. That was a flat out mistake, he went to her with what I said and since then she has not let it go. I do realize I should have said nothing at all but congratulations.
Since then however, his wife has on numerous occasions texted and called me with outlandish accusations and really, most of it was utter nonsense but it did cause problems at times with my daughter as she would drag her into it. When she was first blocked she then started calling/texting my parents and also found my work email and information and started calling/emailing me there. Which was extremely embarrassing to explain to my boss at the time. Each of these times she has received no response and blocked as much as we or the technology she reached out on would allow all of us.
My exhusband did speak to her after that and I thought all was well for a little bit as it had seemed to stop. There has been minor issues here or there where she has tried to intervene, start making a big deal about being "mom" of our daughter to medical professionals and at her school. Or she goes to my daughter and speaks to her inappropriately about issues (like two teens gossiping rather than a step mom/daughter) and I really have no idea what to do about that and doubt anything can be done as this is something solely on my ex husbands terf. There have also been times she twists things my daughter says or lies about what my daughter says, it's honestly all really out there kind of stuff that my ex husband will say he has handled when brought to his attention but it happens over and over again. But fyi just for background information leading up to what's going on to now.
I recently had some pretty big life changes with a pregnancy and now engaged, as well as being self employed and doing the best I have ever done professionally. With that came a new phone which I did not realize didn't transfer over existing blocks. To make a long story short, she has still been texting all this time and the texts are honestly nutters. I sent them along to my exhusband as this is really bananas, and blocked her again. She is seemingly obsessed with my previous marriage to her now husband, both my exhusband and I are over it and it's not something I care to rehash. My ex husband must have spoken to her because not even a day later she sent my fiance a message that she found his number in my ex husbands phone and basically told him that she needed to talk to him about me and that she needed to warn him about me etc. Once that stunt didn't work and she was talked to again by my ex husband, she is now claiming to my ex husband that I have harassed her by using an anonymous social media account and sent her racist messages. And now I'm receiving text messages threatening me from my ex husband that he claims he did not send, so I assume she has used his phone to text me then deletes the text.
So long story short, it seems like the pattern has been when she doesn't get the response she wants and is blocked by me, she finds some other way to get to me either thru my daughter, my work, my parents, and now my fiance and making up complete fairy tales to gain attention from me. Does this fall under any type of harassment protections? My exhusband has only been able to do so much and now I'm very worried about my company and what she may do as she has contacted my work before, I am worried about what she may be saying to my daughter or if my daughter will become a target of hers next. This is exhausting as this has been going on for 3 years now. Any advice or point to the right direction would be helpful, thank you.