Actually, good, responsible men are NOT one in a million. There are just as many good, involved fathers as there are good mothers. Women are not a superior gender. There are plenty of irresponsible moms out there. I know a heck of a lot of nice guys, who are very involved daddys and family men.Wolflmg said:Sometimes guys that are too good to be true come along, there one in a million, but they are out there.
If a woman wants a guy like that for her kid's daddy, they should defer babymaking until they find a nice, supportive, responsible guy who is ready willing and able to be a daddy to their child.
And, poster, if daddy files for paternity and establishes a relationship with his child, which IS his legal right, your someday marriage will NOT give you the right to change your child's name over the father's objections, unless the court determines it will be in THE CHILD'S best interest.
Being concieved outside marriage ONLY makes a difference up until paternity and visitation is legally established. After that, daddy has the same rights to pursue as a divorced dad.
As STealth pointed out, you had options if you wanted to become mom to a child who would NOT have a legal father so that you alone would have all the legal rights. I know plenty of adoptive single parents and they DO have all the legal rights. And women who concieved via a sperm bank- they too can legally remain the sole parent. But you have a child that was NOT concieved in a way that allows you to legally cut out the father. He is just as much the parent as you are, and you are very unfair to demand he give up his future child.
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