What is the name of your state? MI
well for those of you that know our situation this is a bit of an update and a question?
First off we went to court today on a hearing for support. They had calculated it wrong and did not go by the MI CS manual. So today they acknowledged that it was infact handled wrong and now we have another hearing scheduled for Jan 6th to see how they are going to fix it.
We also got the custody and parenting time recomendation back. And Custody was denied because dad doesn't know his son and because protective services gave the child back to the mom. So they figured it was best for the child to stay with the mom while dad gets to know him. I kinda expected something like that but I at least thought he might get joint legal custody. We knew the visits were going to be ordered as supervised at first so that was no suprise. They are weekly supervised visits. The only bad thing is the place where they will take place is a hour's drive.
So now we have to come up with a supervised visitation schedual that will gradualy become a liberal visitation schedule as the two of them get to know each other. And this is were my question comes in.
Does this sound good and what am i missing? I want to try and cover everything so there are so mishaps.
I think we will ask for 12 supervised visits taking place over 3 months, (so once a week for 3 months). Then adding 1 weekly visit for about 5 hours unsupervised at our home for an additional 3 months and still do the supervised weekly visit as well.
after that we will ask for unsupervised visits. alternate weekends and holidays. splitting X-mas and spring break 50/50 each year. and 4 consecutive weeks in the summer with mom getting a weekend visit in the middle. He's only 5 so I think 4 weeks without seeing mom is a but much but with 2 weeks with us then a weekend with mom and another 2 weeks with us he should do fine.
we are also going to ask that he be allowed to call either parent when ever he wants too, within reason.
that mom keeps dad informed of school, health, and extracuricluar activities.
we want transportation to be split. we live over an hour away from mom so a halfway meeting point for exchangeing the child. A phone call if either parent will be late.
that mom provide clean clothes for visits and we will return them clean as well as anything else he brings with him.
I think that is it. Am i forgetting anything? Should i take anything out? Of course when we type it all out it will be much more specific this is just kind of a run down on things.
thanks,
beth
well for those of you that know our situation this is a bit of an update and a question?
First off we went to court today on a hearing for support. They had calculated it wrong and did not go by the MI CS manual. So today they acknowledged that it was infact handled wrong and now we have another hearing scheduled for Jan 6th to see how they are going to fix it.
We also got the custody and parenting time recomendation back. And Custody was denied because dad doesn't know his son and because protective services gave the child back to the mom. So they figured it was best for the child to stay with the mom while dad gets to know him. I kinda expected something like that but I at least thought he might get joint legal custody. We knew the visits were going to be ordered as supervised at first so that was no suprise. They are weekly supervised visits. The only bad thing is the place where they will take place is a hour's drive.
So now we have to come up with a supervised visitation schedual that will gradualy become a liberal visitation schedule as the two of them get to know each other. And this is were my question comes in.
Does this sound good and what am i missing? I want to try and cover everything so there are so mishaps.
I think we will ask for 12 supervised visits taking place over 3 months, (so once a week for 3 months). Then adding 1 weekly visit for about 5 hours unsupervised at our home for an additional 3 months and still do the supervised weekly visit as well.
after that we will ask for unsupervised visits. alternate weekends and holidays. splitting X-mas and spring break 50/50 each year. and 4 consecutive weeks in the summer with mom getting a weekend visit in the middle. He's only 5 so I think 4 weeks without seeing mom is a but much but with 2 weeks with us then a weekend with mom and another 2 weeks with us he should do fine.
we are also going to ask that he be allowed to call either parent when ever he wants too, within reason.
that mom keeps dad informed of school, health, and extracuricluar activities.
we want transportation to be split. we live over an hour away from mom so a halfway meeting point for exchangeing the child. A phone call if either parent will be late.
that mom provide clean clothes for visits and we will return them clean as well as anything else he brings with him.
I think that is it. Am i forgetting anything? Should i take anything out? Of course when we type it all out it will be much more specific this is just kind of a run down on things.
thanks,
beth
