UPDATE (court tomorrow)

[bononos]

So you are going to allow granny to be the supervisor of his visitation? Is that wise if she has been hiding his behavior from you? Not second guessing, just throwing that out there...

True.
I don't really know how much room I have here though.
I mean...these are major issues and developments that are of great concern, but still, we have exactly 50/50 everything now.
How much can I change based on these issues.
I don't see a court cutting him to a few hours a week supervised visitation from joint 50/50.

 

[bononos]

And you were keeping your cards close to your chest as well, so your both had your won reasons for keeping mum but I see no problem with your proposed amendments and your reasoning for short notice on the changes, be sure to file them with the court today so the judge has them in your file and you can serve the attorney in or before court.

What did the evaluator say about all this, did you reach them yet?

They gave me his cell cause he is out of office.
I called and left a message.
No reply yet.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

They gave me his cell cause he is out of office.
I called and left a message.
No reply yet.

OK, you might also add a no guns clause to your proposed amended orders

 

[bononos]

OK, you might also add a no guns clause to your proposed amended orders

I was considering that too, but the evaluators report stated that ex had safetys on all guns.

 

[Ohiogal]

I was considering that too, but the evaluators report stated that ex had safetys on all guns.

Yeah and druggies and alcoholics ALWAYS use firearms safely. ]
Sorry bononos. But if your ex is using drugs why would you trust that the guns are unloaded, safety is ALWAYS on and your ex wouldn't get stupid and try to do target practice while drunk or high?

 

[bononos]

Yeah and druggies and alcoholics ALWAYS use firearms safely. ]
Sorry bononos. But if your ex is using drugs why would you trust that the guns are unloaded, safety is ALWAYS on and your ex wouldn't get stupid and try to do target practice while drunk or high?

I in no way trust it, but the fact is when the evaluator made his report, he was satisfied with the weapons being safe and ex's mental history and drug use being under control.

I will add it and push for it in the order.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Yeah and druggies and alcoholics ALWAYS use firearms safely. ]
Sorry bononos. But if your ex is using drugs why would you trust that the guns are unloaded, safety is ALWAYS on and your ex wouldn't get stupid and try to do target practice while drunk or high?

Was that a rhetorical question or an attorney question , please answer yes or no

 

[Ohiogal]

Was that a rhetorical question or an attorney question , please answer yes or no

I can't answer "yes" or "no" because you didn't ask a "yes" or "no" question.. it was a multiple choice with the answers being rhetorical or attorney. So now I am confused...
My answer is C -- That was a PLEASE GOOD GRIEF THINK ABOUT THE LOGIC OF SOMEONE WHO YOU KNOW IS USING ILLEGAL DRUGS AND DRIVING DRUNK ON DAYS HE HAS THE CHILD ACTUALLY BEING SMART ABOUT GUNS IN THE HOUSE....

 

[Ohiogal]

I in no way trust it, but the fact is when the evaluator made his report, he was satisfied with the weapons being safe and ex's mental history and drug use being under control.

I will add it and push for it in the order.

Yes but since the evaluator made his report you found out that he was arrested for drugs and alcohol. Don't think that means the drug use is under control. The arrest and warrant could refute that.

 

[bononos]

Yes but since the evaluator made his report you found out that he was arrested for drugs and alcohol. Don't think that means the drug use is under control. The arrest and warrant could refute that.

It iwill definately be brought up.
I know so many times it's a matter of proof and I may not have enough, but will push for it.

 

[Ohiogal]

It iwill definately be brought up.
I know so many times it's a matter of proof and I may not have enough, but will push for it.

You may not have enough but it can't hurt to fire with both barrels! Give it all you have. the evaluator made a decision based on the information had at the time. Now there is new info. You should get a chance to question the evaluator about the new information.

 

[weenor]

True.
I don't really know how much room I have here though.
I mean...these are major issues and developments that are of great concern, but still, we have exactly 50/50 everything now.
How much can I change based on these issues.
I don't see a court cutting him to a few hours a week supervised visitation from joint 50/50.

While it may not happen, at this juncture I would push for short supervised visitations when he gets out of jail, preferrably at a visitation center at his expense. If you don't ask you DEFINITELY won't get and the urgency will never be greater than now. (unless of course he murders someone later on )

 

[fairisfair]

no advice, just good luck bononos!!