UPDATE to "How do we handle this?"

[vwlonewolf]

What is the name of your state? PA

Just thought I'd update and thank the people who actually gave me advice. This will no longer be an issue as the mother has decided to terminate the pregnancy b/c of "too many complications".



This was from the first post, the link to the whole thing is posted in my first reply to this thread:
How do we handle this?

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State: Pennsylvania

I know this isn't going to sound good, but we need advise on how to proceed.

Background: My husband and I almost filed for a divorce about a month ago, but decided to work things out. I went away for a weekend and when I came back we talked things out. I ended up getting pregnant that weekend. (Not on purpose, we both are happy and want the baby).

I just found out that that same weekend he cheated on me and now this other girl is also pregnant. Which would make us due 2 days apart. It's not a 100% chance that it is his, as she is known to "sleep around" (there could be a chance that it could be my husband's brothers kid).

At first the girl said her father wanted my husband to "sign his rights away" and have nothing to do with the baby or the mother. Now the mother wants him to be a part of the baby's life.

How should we proceed? He wants nothing to do with the mother, but if it's his kid he wants to be a part of it's life. Should we just wait til it's born and have the mother pay for a paternity test?

Any other advise would be greatly appreciated.Thanks

 

[Zephyr]

what do you mean how do you handle her terminating the pregnancy? I don't know- offer to pay for half or all of it?

 

[WhosMyBabyDaddy]

It's too bad you and your husband made someone kill an innocent child because it didn't suit your needs.

 

[Zephyr]

It's too bad you and your husband made someone kill an innocent child because it didn't suit your needs.

ummmm.....wrong forum

 

[vwlonewolf]

I guess I should have included the link for the original post for those that weren't a part of that discussion:
https://forum.freeadvice.com/showthread.php?t=305873

We ARE NOT making someone kill and innocent child, you WERE a part of that discussion, so you should remember what the situation was about!

 

[AmarieNorton]

What's there to handle? I suppose you could offer to pay. If mom has already decided to terminate then there's really nothing left to "handle". BTW mom could be lying just to get you two off of her back for now (she doesn't HAVE to terminate - it's 100% her choice what she does). Don't be surprised if she shows up with a bouncing little bundle of joy 'bout the same age as yours.

 

[badboybarry]

if mom keeps the baby hubby may be dealing with her untill the kid is 18

by the way, when it comes to this child, there is no "we". YOU had no part in getting this woman pregnant, your husband did. you said this woman has a habit of sleeping around, well, apparently, so does your husband. if he didnt want to have a baby with her, he should have either kept his d(ck in his pants, or used a condom. you cant force her to have an abortion, its not your decision to make, if she chooses to keep the baby, your husband may be dealing with her for the next 18 years.

 

[weenor]

by the way, when it comes to this child, there is no "we". YOU had no part in getting this woman pregnant, your husband did. you said this woman has a habit of sleeping around, well, apparently, so does your husband. if he didnt want to have a baby with her, he should have either kept his d(ck in his pants, or used a condom. you cant force her to have an abortion, its not your decision to make, if she chooses to keep the baby, your husband may be dealing with her for the next 18 years.

Kelly go away- you are not adding anything to this post and you really need to be tending to the ex that needs the periodic jaw replacement. period.

 

[Bali Hai]

What's there to handle? I suppose you could offer to pay. If mom has already decided to terminate then there's really nothing left to "handle". BTW mom could be lying just to get you two off of her back for now (she doesn't HAVE to terminate - it's 100% her choice what she does). Don't be surprised if she shows up with a bouncing little bundle of joy 'bout the same age as yours.

With a court order for child support.