Very tricky situation here

[614jt]

state: utah
I was divorced 10 years ago and got sole custody of kid's. I moved to Calif. but the court in Mass. (where I was divorced) said I could take the kid's but had to return in 3 months. To make sure I would return the court gave my ex-husband shared custody. I never did return. My ex has found out where we were living but never did anything other then send nasty letters. We moved again. I had to go on AFDC and they contacted Mass to let them know where we were living and nothing happened.
I do not get child support from my ex. He paid to the state of Mass for a while but not in many years.
If I see an Attorney in Utah to get full custody and child support could I get in trouble for never returning to Mass?
Also, my ex is from an Arab country and has threatened to take the boy's away and I would never see them again. He was not given any custody and visits were up to me when we got divorced. He is very violent. I am afraid of losing my kid's to him or him taking them if he finds out where we live.
Do I risk losing my kid's?

PLEASE HELP ME!!!

 

[deefran]

state: utah
I was divorced 10 years ago and got sole custody of kid's. I moved to Calif. but the court in Mass. (where I was divorced) said I could take the kid's but had to return in 3 months. To make sure I would return the court gave my ex-husband shared custody. I never did return. My ex has found out where we were living but never did anything other then send nasty letters. We moved again. I had to go on AFDC and they contacted Mass to let them know where we were living and nothing happened.
I do not get child support from my ex. He paid to the state of Mass for a while but not in many years.
If I see an Attorney in Utah to get full custody and child support could I get in trouble for never returning to Mass?
Also, my ex is from an Arab country and has threatened to take the boy's away and I would never see them again. He was not given any custody and visits were up to me when we got divorced. He is very violent. I am afraid of losing my kid's to him or him taking them if he finds out where we live.
Do I risk losing my kid's?


PLEASE HELP ME!!!

Let's see, you are in contempt of court, are planning on lying to a court in Utah and have alienated your ex from his children because you were afraid of HIM taking the kids away??!! If he ever decides to pursue this in court you will most likely lose your children

 

[614jt]

You have no clue!!!! I do not plan on lying to anyone and by my ex stealing the kid's he alienated himself (no visitation given to him at first). Even the state won't go after him for child support!! He beat the heck out of me and hit our son too. He has tried to take the kid's to Morocco (arab country). He could of seen them when he found out where we lived but he choose to only send sickning letters.
Don't try to put all of this on me! Yes, I did make a mistake by not going back to Mass but it was for the safety of myself and our children. I gave him all the visits he wanted but he only showed up 4 times in 2 years!! Great dad!!!
Sounds like you may be very bitter and I am sorry for that but decide that someone else will lie in court because I won't.

 

[Yas]

I just wanted to ask, all these cases where there is one parent practicing Parental Alienation, when it is done to keep the child away from the "absent" parent, does this really count for a lot in court? I keep reading that parents that practice PA usually lose their kids...is this true? What about maintaining the status quo?

 

[614jt]

I tried to let my ex have any visitation he wanted until he took our children and went out of the country without anyone's consent. I would of liked for our children to see their dad and know him more than they do but the violence and taking the kid's to England made it impossible to let him have the kid's overnight and the court said he would have NO visitation. I was up front and honest with him and told him I was thinking about moving to California where I had a college scholarship. This is when he took me back to court and I was told to return in 3 months. Thus I did not return. My mistake!
Further more I have never said an ill word about my children's father to the kid's or even near the kid's. When they are adults they can form their own opinions. Right now they are only 12 and 14 years old.
I do not want to do anything to even take a chance of losing my kid's but I feel I have to be honest to the courts and do what is right.
Know what? If it means I may lose my kid's then I will not go to seek full custody and we will continue on with our lives.