What is the name of your state? TX
I really don't know how to begin, i have a 14yr old son, when born the biological father left the country no where to be found, until my son was 7yrs old, at this time he requested dna testing, and child support,visitation orders were issued thru the state of texas. The biological father is living in the state of Oklahoma. I make every attempt to follow the court order, and am very accomodating to him, for the sake of our son. I feel that at times i am rearranging our lives so that it is convienant for him. Clearly he doesn't excercise his visitation rights except during the summers, and holidays...at these times because our son wants to spend more time w/his father, i rearrage my summer visitation,or give up a holiday to allow them to visit for an extended period of time,and anytime that my son feels that he wants to come home during a visit, he cannot find the courage to tell his father how he feels, and when i explain how he feels to his father, his father thinks that it's me, or if our son finds the courage to tell him he wants to come home w/me, his biological father manipulates our son to make him feel guilty to stay longer. I am at a loss what to do at this point. I feel that i have been completely shafted out of my visitation w/our son,but understand that it is me, who shafts myself. At this time our son has been throwing around the idea that he wants to go to school in Oklahoma w/his father until the christmas break.I believe he has having "the grass is greener" syndrome, and I am concerned at how to go about the whole thing.Personally I don't want to do it. My theory is that my son is out of sight and out of mind,he gets to pick and choose when he wants to be a father,the man calls to speak to our son on an avg of 6 times a year,during the summer and christmas time,is the most attention that our son gets from his biological father,and it is a bit unfair that myself and my husband,(his stepfather)are parents to our son all year long no matter what, and he can just see him all summer, and christmas, spring break..... I was informed from a friend that at the age of 14 my son can choose to go and stay w/whomever he chooses. Is this true? I also want to know that if I do allow him to go to school and live w/his biological father,at the hope that he realizes how well he has it here, w/me, what can i do to ensure that i will get my son back during the christmas break? Is there a contract that i can draw up, to make sure that the biological father cannot keep him longer against my wishes, or my sons?Does the contract have to come from a lawyer, or can i draw one up myself?Thank you so much for your time and advice, in advance.What is the name of your state?
I really don't know how to begin, i have a 14yr old son, when born the biological father left the country no where to be found, until my son was 7yrs old, at this time he requested dna testing, and child support,visitation orders were issued thru the state of texas. The biological father is living in the state of Oklahoma. I make every attempt to follow the court order, and am very accomodating to him, for the sake of our son. I feel that at times i am rearranging our lives so that it is convienant for him. Clearly he doesn't excercise his visitation rights except during the summers, and holidays...at these times because our son wants to spend more time w/his father, i rearrage my summer visitation,or give up a holiday to allow them to visit for an extended period of time,and anytime that my son feels that he wants to come home during a visit, he cannot find the courage to tell his father how he feels, and when i explain how he feels to his father, his father thinks that it's me, or if our son finds the courage to tell him he wants to come home w/me, his biological father manipulates our son to make him feel guilty to stay longer. I am at a loss what to do at this point. I feel that i have been completely shafted out of my visitation w/our son,but understand that it is me, who shafts myself. At this time our son has been throwing around the idea that he wants to go to school in Oklahoma w/his father until the christmas break.I believe he has having "the grass is greener" syndrome, and I am concerned at how to go about the whole thing.Personally I don't want to do it. My theory is that my son is out of sight and out of mind,he gets to pick and choose when he wants to be a father,the man calls to speak to our son on an avg of 6 times a year,during the summer and christmas time,is the most attention that our son gets from his biological father,and it is a bit unfair that myself and my husband,(his stepfather)are parents to our son all year long no matter what, and he can just see him all summer, and christmas, spring break..... I was informed from a friend that at the age of 14 my son can choose to go and stay w/whomever he chooses. Is this true? I also want to know that if I do allow him to go to school and live w/his biological father,at the hope that he realizes how well he has it here, w/me, what can i do to ensure that i will get my son back during the christmas break? Is there a contract that i can draw up, to make sure that the biological father cannot keep him longer against my wishes, or my sons?Does the contract have to come from a lawyer, or can i draw one up myself?Thank you so much for your time and advice, in advance.What is the name of your state?
