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LuvngMom
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What is the name of your state? IL
I have been divorced for 4 years, and live 65 miles away from my X. I have custodial custody of our four children. He is very orally abusive to me.
I have been unemployeed for over a year due to the technology job recession. I recently got my real estate license, which my new employer requires me to work on weekends. I told the X that I cannot help with the every other weekend driving anymore. He is taking me to court to get me to do it, and to have it put into our agreement. It is not in there now.
I also have a chronic bad back, which makes it difficult, or nearly impossible for me to drive the entire 3 hours. I have been seeing a doctor for 3 years about this. (My new husband used to do the driving, but he is sick of helping out this creep of an X.)
Advice: What do I have to present to the court so I don't have to do this driving? Will letters from my employer and my doctor be enough? Is there something else that I can do to get out of this driving? I feel like I will do ANYTHING legal to get out of it.
On top of it all, I think it is better for the kids this way, because they do not have to see us arguing each time I pick them up. (When he comes to my house, I make myself busy, so he cannot pick a fight with me in front of the kids.)
In addition, in the 6 years that we have been divorced he has never paid any extracirricular activities fees that he is supposed to pay.
I have been divorced for 4 years, and live 65 miles away from my X. I have custodial custody of our four children. He is very orally abusive to me.
I have been unemployeed for over a year due to the technology job recession. I recently got my real estate license, which my new employer requires me to work on weekends. I told the X that I cannot help with the every other weekend driving anymore. He is taking me to court to get me to do it, and to have it put into our agreement. It is not in there now.
I also have a chronic bad back, which makes it difficult, or nearly impossible for me to drive the entire 3 hours. I have been seeing a doctor for 3 years about this. (My new husband used to do the driving, but he is sick of helping out this creep of an X.)
Advice: What do I have to present to the court so I don't have to do this driving? Will letters from my employer and my doctor be enough? Is there something else that I can do to get out of this driving? I feel like I will do ANYTHING legal to get out of it.
On top of it all, I think it is better for the kids this way, because they do not have to see us arguing each time I pick them up. (When he comes to my house, I make myself busy, so he cannot pick a fight with me in front of the kids.)
In addition, in the 6 years that we have been divorced he has never paid any extracirricular activities fees that he is supposed to pay.