Visitation emergency

[LdiJ]

I dunno... if daughter is really that athletic and so very into volunteer work I was thinking along the lines of a day camp counselor, child care at the Y, babysitting, things along those lines. All of which would be short term, give back to the community, and provide a pay check.

Honestly, I think mom is NOT likely at all to get the visitation even further restricted, nor is she presenting valid arguments for allowing the child to tell dad she's not visiting.

I don't disagree...LOL...I was just pointing out that its hard to get an employer to consider someone that's only available for 4 weeks....just like its hard to get an employer to consider someone who has to miss 4 weeks of the summer.

Its kind of a no win situation for teens on the job side of things when summers are split between the parents (and the parents don't live close to each other)...because the odds of lucking into very short term jobs aren't strong. None of those jobs you mentioned above, in my area (except perhaps sporadic babysitting) would take someone for just 4 weeks.

Even though I agree that they need to spend their summers with both parents...I just think its one more of those things about divorce or unwed parenting that's unfair to the kids.

 

[stealth2]

its one more of those things about divorce or unwed parenting that's unfair to the kids.

A truer word was never spoken. But it is as it is.

 

[CJane]

Even though I agree that they need to spend their summers with both parents...I just think its one more of those things about divorce or unwed parenting that's unfair to the kids.

Oh I totally agree. It's also something I think all of these people trying to relocate need to think about before moving. It's all well and good to claim that the jobs would be better, or your boyfriend lives there, or your family lives there, or whatever - but it's setting your child up for a lifetime of disruption - even if you're the NCP who's moving.

 

[Ithildriel]

How much harm is there...

In a child waiting to get a job until 18? Retirement age is 65. That's a good 47 years (I typed tears the first time, which could also be appropriate ) of working. Not working from 16 to 18 isn't going to kill them. Let them be kids!

 

[frylover]

Oh I totally agree. It's also something I think all of these people trying to relocate need to think about before moving. It's all well and good to claim that the jobs would be better, or your boyfriend lives there, or your family lives there, or whatever - but it's setting your child up for a lifetime of disruption - even if you're the NCP who's moving.

Too bad my SIL isn't going to think about that when she tries to and possibly succeeds in moving her daughter to OK so she can be closer to her own "mommy and daddy/!

Teenagers aren't known for wanting to spend copious amounts of time with their parents when they are in an intact family! At least if the parents are in the same area it's possible to work around visitation AND a child's growing independence!