Newlydivmomto4
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California
I'm having a hard time on what to tell my oldest son (A) who is 11. A little background, he has ADHD, Anxiety, Obsessive Compulsive Behaviors, Autistic Tendencies and ODD. Otherwise referred to by me as Alphabet diagnosis.
My divorce is extrmely new, and A is having a really hard time with his emotions toward his Dad. When he has an outburst about something, I simply tell him that its fine to have those feelings, but you are not allowed to talk disrespectfully about your Dad and that he needs to bring it up with his Dad. He starts going back to counseling next week. When we still lived with Dad, Dad was verbally and at times physically abusive towards A. To the point of the day before Dad filed for divorce, I stepped between the two of them.
The divorce decree states visitation as agreed upon by both parents. I have sole physical and legal custody. I want to try to keep what little of a relationship these two have left going as much as possible, but A is balking at even just going bowling with his Dad. Right now Dad is coming to watch him play hockey and thats about as much interaction he has with him. Does anyone have any suggestions on how best to deal with the situation?
Thanks in advance for your help. Sorry I've been coming on here so much asking for advice.
I'm having a hard time on what to tell my oldest son (A) who is 11. A little background, he has ADHD, Anxiety, Obsessive Compulsive Behaviors, Autistic Tendencies and ODD. Otherwise referred to by me as Alphabet diagnosis.
My divorce is extrmely new, and A is having a really hard time with his emotions toward his Dad. When he has an outburst about something, I simply tell him that its fine to have those feelings, but you are not allowed to talk disrespectfully about your Dad and that he needs to bring it up with his Dad. He starts going back to counseling next week. When we still lived with Dad, Dad was verbally and at times physically abusive towards A. To the point of the day before Dad filed for divorce, I stepped between the two of them.
The divorce decree states visitation as agreed upon by both parents. I have sole physical and legal custody. I want to try to keep what little of a relationship these two have left going as much as possible, but A is balking at even just going bowling with his Dad. Right now Dad is coming to watch him play hockey and thats about as much interaction he has with him. Does anyone have any suggestions on how best to deal with the situation?
Thanks in advance for your help. Sorry I've been coming on here so much asking for advice.
Yet HE filed for divorce, not you?