Visitation/Grnadparent rights

[Grandmama]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California but want information regarding grandchildren that live in Oregon.

 

[waitinMd]

And what information do you want?

you did not give any details....

 

[Just Blue]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California but want information regarding grandchildren that live in Oregon.

We don't have any information regarding your grandchildren that live in Oregon.

Perhaps you could be more specific regarding what you want to know???

 

[Proserpina]

Many, many more details:

Where are Mom & Dad?

Are they married? Divorced? Never married?

How old are the children?

 

[Grandmama]

Sorry

Sorry, I am new to this.

My daughter was married and had her first child while living in California. Her husband move them to Oregon where they have had a second child. Since they have moved we visit at least twice a year where we must pay for all travel expense, hotels, food (including their food while we are there) and entertainment. When they would come to California we would always need to assist with their travel expenses and they would stay with us and again we would be paying for food and entertainment expenses. Now they are getting divorced and he wants to put verbage into their agreement that will greatly restrict the childrens visits to California. I feel like we are always paying for the right to see our grandchilden and now the when will be effected too, his family is all there so when ever they want to see the kids its no problem he just drops them for overnights whenever they want. It is a 10+ hour drive between us and even three days is tight as two of them are spent traveling. I feel very helpless and am not sure where to go from here.

 

[waitinMd]

Sorry, I am new to this.

My daughter was married and had her first child while living in California. Her husband move them to Oregon where they have had a second child. Since they have moved we visit at least twice a year where we must pay for all travel expense, hotels, food (including their food while we are there) and entertainment. When they would come to California we would always need to assist with their travel expenses and they would stay with us and again we would be paying for food and entertainment expenses. Now they are getting divorced and he wants to put verbage into their agreement that will greatly restrict the childrens visits to California. I feel like we are always paying for the right to see our grandchilden and now the when will be effected too, his family is all there so when ever they want to see the kids its no problem he just drops them for overnights whenever they want. It is a 10+ hour drive between us and even three days is tight as two of them are spent traveling. I feel very helpless and am not sure where to go from here.

your visitation would be based on what your daughter gets. She does not have to agree to restricted visits to California. Unless there is a reason the children should not leave the state, I don't see why a Judge would order it. Your daughter could come to California to visit, or you can still go to Oregon.

 

[Hisbabygirl77]

Sorry, I am new to this.

My daughter was married and had her first child while living in California. Her husband move them to Oregon where they have had a second child. Since they have moved we visit at least twice a year where we must pay for all travel expense, hotels, food (including their food while we are there) and entertainment. When they would come to California we would always need to assist with their travel expenses and they would stay with us and again we would be paying for food and entertainment expenses. Now they are getting divorced and he wants to put verbage into their agreement that will greatly restrict the childrens visits to California. I feel like we are always paying for the right to see our grandchilden and now the when will be effected too, his family is all there so when ever they want to see the kids its no problem he just drops them for overnights whenever they want. It is a 10+ hour drive between us and even three days is tight as two of them are spent traveling. I feel very helpless and am not sure where to go from here.

You can see your grandchildren when your daughter has them if she allows. You have no rights the children and I don't really understand why you are acting like you should be given a pat on the back for paying for trip to see your grandchildren. Umm thats what MOST grandparents happily do. Most would also help fund their grandchildren coming to see them if parents could not.

 

[Proserpina]

Sorry, I am new to this.

My daughter was married and had her first child while living in California. Her husband move them to Oregon where they have had a second child. Since they have moved we visit at least twice a year where we must pay for all travel expense, hotels, food (including their food while we are there) and entertainment.

OK, that's fair.

When they would come to California we would always need to assist with their travel expenses and they would stay with us and again we would be paying for food and entertainment expenses. Now they are getting divorced and he wants to put verbage into their agreement that will greatly restrict the childrens visits to California.

It's Dad's right to do that - but as they're not divorced yet it's actually a moot point.

I feel like we are always paying for the right to see our grandchilden and now the when will be effected too, his family is all there so when ever they want to see the kids its no problem he just drops them for overnights whenever they want. It is a 10+ hour drive between us and even three days is tight as two of them are spent traveling. I feel very helpless and am not sure where to go from here.

You don't have any inherent right to see your grandchildren; what is most likely to happen is that you see them when they're with your daughter.

How old are the children, btw?