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Visitation Rights of Unmarried Parents of Infant in NY
child (11 months) was born in colorado, to unmarried couple living together. father of child forced mother to use his last name for child in hospital, threatened to leave her if she didn't. so, she did. mother, father and child came to new york for family wedding (of mother's brother). father of child caused drunken scene, was verbally and mentally abusive. mother of child decides to stay in new york with her family (she knows no one in colorado but father of baby). apparently the mental abuse, acholism, drug use and uncaring behavior of the father was the normal behavior before and after the baby was born. mother was awareded new york as jurisdiction for child (emergency jurisdiction). however, eight months later, father is insisting on seeing child and judge awarded (on the actual day of hearing) that father should be permitted to see daugher for three hours that day (without prior notice) and three hours the next day. judge didn't take previous behavior of the father into consideration before making decision. does mother have to let father see baby (11 month's old)? isn't alcholism, drug use and emotional abuse grounds for not allowing him to visit with child? also, isn't he required to pay child support if he insists on seeing the child? judge said that since he had to pay to visit the child - he lives in colorado, child lives in new york, that he should only have to pay child support or the plane fare, not both. why is father of child getting more privileges when he is a danger and negative influence in child's life? also, father has other daugher from other woman he was only living with. he claims he pays child support, but that is not true. the mother of other child just wants him to have nothing to do with her daugher (5 years old). he doesn't give support regularly to first daugher, yet told his lawyer he does in order to prevent paying child support for second daughter. based on his untreated alcoholism and current drug use, isn't there any way to prevent visitation? also, mother of child says she will forfeit any child support from him (if it was awarded) in order to keep him from child, due to the fact that his visits would not be in the best interest of the baby.
Please advise.
child (11 months) was born in colorado, to unmarried couple living together. father of child forced mother to use his last name for child in hospital, threatened to leave her if she didn't. so, she did. mother, father and child came to new york for family wedding (of mother's brother). father of child caused drunken scene, was verbally and mentally abusive. mother of child decides to stay in new york with her family (she knows no one in colorado but father of baby). apparently the mental abuse, acholism, drug use and uncaring behavior of the father was the normal behavior before and after the baby was born. mother was awareded new york as jurisdiction for child (emergency jurisdiction). however, eight months later, father is insisting on seeing child and judge awarded (on the actual day of hearing) that father should be permitted to see daugher for three hours that day (without prior notice) and three hours the next day. judge didn't take previous behavior of the father into consideration before making decision. does mother have to let father see baby (11 month's old)? isn't alcholism, drug use and emotional abuse grounds for not allowing him to visit with child? also, isn't he required to pay child support if he insists on seeing the child? judge said that since he had to pay to visit the child - he lives in colorado, child lives in new york, that he should only have to pay child support or the plane fare, not both. why is father of child getting more privileges when he is a danger and negative influence in child's life? also, father has other daugher from other woman he was only living with. he claims he pays child support, but that is not true. the mother of other child just wants him to have nothing to do with her daugher (5 years old). he doesn't give support regularly to first daugher, yet told his lawyer he does in order to prevent paying child support for second daughter. based on his untreated alcoholism and current drug use, isn't there any way to prevent visitation? also, mother of child says she will forfeit any child support from him (if it was awarded) in order to keep him from child, due to the fact that his visits would not be in the best interest of the baby.
Please advise.