visitation severance

[tholavina]

I have a two year old son. His father has seen him a total of 11 hours in his entire life. I offer visits and he refuses to take them. Then he asks for unsupervised visits knowing full well he can't have them and then tries to take me to court under contempt charges because I won't give him unsupervised visits. We have NO visitation order. All visits are given to him by me. He pays child support when he feels like it. Just enough to keep him out of hot water with the courts. I was told earlier that if he refused visits then I could reduce his visits or take them away totally. If that's so...how?? and how do I file the forms? I am in the state of Oklahoma.

 

[meleahk1]

I have a two year old son. His father has seen him a total of 11 hours in his entire life. I offer visits and he refuses to take them. Then he asks for unsupervised visits knowing full well he can't have them and then tries to take me to court under contempt charges because I won't give him unsupervised visits. We have NO visitation order. All visits are given to him by me. He pays child support when he feels like it. Just enough to keep him out of hot water with the courts. I was told earlier that if he refused visits then I could reduce his visits or take them away totally. If that's so...how?? and how do I file the forms? I am in the state of Oklahoma.


Why did he not get regular visitation? Why only supervised?

You cannot deny his right to see his child no matter how you may feel about him. He does have rights and he can choose to exercise those rights. If he was court ordered to just supervised visitation then that is what he gets until a judge rules differently.

As far as the child support goes you can always modify it as can he. He can also modify the visitations as well.

Good luck

 

[Grandma B]

Sounds more like he needs to go to court for a visitation order than for a modification since there are currently NO orders.

Until he does so, you have every right to supervise his visitation.

 

[tholavina]

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Ok, he has been basically sitting on his butt waiting for me to take him to court and give him visitation instead of him doing it himself. It's true, I'm not fond of him, but that has nothing to do with my son. What I am concerned about is later down the road when my son is more aware of things, that he will be hurt by the fact that his father just doesn't bother. I would like to spare him that until he is old enough to understand and not by hurt by his father's actions. I have offered only supervised visits because he has no repore with my son and he's not mentally stable. Yes, at this point that's only opinion because I can't afford to have him psychologically tested. I have no problem with him exercising his right to be a father. What I have a problem with is that he DOESN"T exercise that right and when he bothers he doesn't follow through. He sets a date and then doesn't go by guidlines that I have asked for (these being supervised and three days notice) and so then he blames me for visitation not happening. I frankly am tired of the fight and want things settled. But it's a fight just to get him to show up to his own court dates. I finally stopped talking to him because all he does is want to fight. I have written up my own visitation schedual that I really think is reasonable. Can that be used to make a schedual?

 

[meleahk1]

Voice all these concerns to the judge. If the father is not showing up for court then a judge will rule for you by default.

I do hope that it all works out for you and your son. Sounds like supervised visitation is what you should be doing and I don't blame you one bit.

Good Luck.