What is the name of your state? Illinois
I was never married to my baby's father, and he lives in Minnesota and is in college. So it is about a 8 1/2 hour drive to visit. Thus, he has only seen our son 5 times and he is 14 months old. The father seems happy enough with this arrangement for now, he can visit when he wants and the baby does not affect his every day life. I am worried about the future. Someday as he gets older and realizes the importance of being a father he may want more regular visitation. My baby now has a "father figure" in my current husband and my son calls him "daddy" and while I think it is good if his other daddy visits, I want to protect my son from having a visitation that is every other full weekend plus every other holiday or something like that. I grew up with visitation and it was terrible, and I want us to come to an agreement on how much visitation is appropriate and put it in writing so I don't get slammed later.
Do I need to go to a lawyer to get a visitation agreement written up? Or is ther esomeone at the state level that can do that? If we agree on something.... for example... one weekend per month plus 4 weeks during the summer, and he chooses to NOT see the child during that time, do I have to make him visit him? For right now, as I said, he is happy not being overly involved. But someday he may want to be, so i would want to write the agreement to prepare for the future.... but then if our agreement says 4 weeks during the summer and the father chooses to not use those weeks, will I get in trouble? Would I need to keep something in writing proving that I didn't keep him from our son?
I was never married to my baby's father, and he lives in Minnesota and is in college. So it is about a 8 1/2 hour drive to visit. Thus, he has only seen our son 5 times and he is 14 months old. The father seems happy enough with this arrangement for now, he can visit when he wants and the baby does not affect his every day life. I am worried about the future. Someday as he gets older and realizes the importance of being a father he may want more regular visitation. My baby now has a "father figure" in my current husband and my son calls him "daddy" and while I think it is good if his other daddy visits, I want to protect my son from having a visitation that is every other full weekend plus every other holiday or something like that. I grew up with visitation and it was terrible, and I want us to come to an agreement on how much visitation is appropriate and put it in writing so I don't get slammed later.
Do I need to go to a lawyer to get a visitation agreement written up? Or is ther esomeone at the state level that can do that? If we agree on something.... for example... one weekend per month plus 4 weeks during the summer, and he chooses to NOT see the child during that time, do I have to make him visit him? For right now, as I said, he is happy not being overly involved. But someday he may want to be, so i would want to write the agreement to prepare for the future.... but then if our agreement says 4 weeks during the summer and the father chooses to not use those weeks, will I get in trouble? Would I need to keep something in writing proving that I didn't keep him from our son?