Visitation

[ShawMR]

What is the name of your state? Maryland

My daughter's father recently has been awarded visistation. It's every other weekend. Now I would like to know if I can stop or limit the visitaion even more because now it's not working. He comes to pick up his daughter but when she comes back there's always something new that's wrong. Her attitude changes, she gets sick, she breaks out, and I'm the one who has to bring her back to recover just so she can go back to the same thing. And recently I found out that she has been with his other kids mother. She lives in a one bedrm with 3 children, so my daughter sleeps on the floor in the living room. I suggested that my daughter and her children she stay at their father's home for the weekend he has her. But still he will not comply so I've decided that he can't get his daughter until we go back to court.

Is this wrong? Can I go around the court system even though this is his weekend to get her? What should I do?

She don't have to sleep on the floor at home why should she have to do it at someone elses home.

 

[nextwife]

What is the name of your state? Maryland

My daughter's father recently has been awarded visistation. It's every other weekend. Now I would like to know if I can stop or limit the visitaion even more because now it's not working. He comes to pick up his daughter but when she comes back there's always something new that's wrong. Her attitude changes, she gets sick, she breaks out, and I'm the one who has to bring her back to recover just so she can go back to the same thing. And recently I found out that she has been with his other kids mother. She lives in a one bedrm with 3 children, so my daughter sleeps on the floor in the living room. I suggested that my daughter and her children she stay at their father's home for the weekend he has her. But still he will not comply so I've decided that he can't get his daughter until we go back to court.

Is this wrong? Can I go around the court system even though this is his weekend to get her? What should I do?

She don't have to sleep on the floor at home why should she have to do it at someone elses home.

YOU can't decide- ONLY a court can decide.

FYI- my daughter spent a goodly part of her fourth and fifth year sleeping on the floor alongside our bed in preference to sleeping in her wonderful Pottery Barn dressed bed (complete with featherbed) in her room. She is none the worse for having done so.

And spending time with her sibling is also not a bad thing. It is YOUR job as mom to help her with the transitions.

 

[stealth2]

Do you want to be found in contempt of court? Then go ahead and deny him his visitation.

There is often an adjustment period after time with one parent or the other. Eventually things even out. And he has the right to spend his visitation time where and how he chooses - you do not get to dictate what he can do, nor do you get to deny him his time because you don't like his choices. As long as she's not in harm's way, you're in the wrong by doing so.

 

[GrowUp!]

What is the name of your state? Maryland

My daughter's father recently has been awarded visistation. It's every other weekend. Now I would like to know if I can stop or limit the visitaion even more because now it's not working. He comes to pick up his daughter but when she comes back there's always something new that's wrong. Her attitude changes, she gets sick, she breaks out, and I'm the one who has to bring her back to recover just so she can go back to the same thing. And recently I found out that she has been with his other kids mother. She lives in a one bedrm with 3 children, so my daughter sleeps on the floor in the living room. I suggested that my daughter and her children she stay at their father's home for the weekend he has her. But still he will not comply so I've decided that he can't get his daughter until we go back to court.

Is this wrong? Can I go around the court system even though this is his weekend to get her? What should I do?

She don't have to sleep on the floor at home why should she have to do it at someone elses home.

Hmmm.

I see where your priorities are at. So you want to "go around the system" to deny him his time with his child. I don't know who the expletive you think you are that YOU can control the shots, but I am more than available to slap that chip off of your shoulder.

How would you like for him to do that with your child support?

Aahh...singing a different tune now aren't we?

While you're thinking of these BS games, have you ever thought about the child for once and get the child SOME FREAKING COUNSELING??!!!?!?!?!

 

[nala_mia8]

you can't deny visitation like that. I have a 7 yr old SD who has a transition period every time she sees us. That's just part of being a divorced kid.

If you continue down the road you're on, you're opening yourself up to your ex asking for and receiving full custody with YOU getting visitation.

Don't break the law, there are serious consequences.

 

[nextwife]

Transitions can be harder for some kids than others.

My kiddo has real problems with transitions, both due to being ADHD, and being a Post Institutionalized child. The fact that she screamed and cried and clung to my neck when I first started taking her to school was NOT a reflection on the school, nor a reason to stop taking her, nor a reflection of how she did once there, but actually was due to HER own issues.

 

[fairisfair]

What is the name of your state? Maryland

My daughter's father recently has been awarded visistation. It's every other weekend. Now I would like to know if I can stop or limit the visitaion even more because now it's not working. He comes to pick up his daughter but when she comes back there's always something new that's wrong. Her attitude changes, she gets sick, she breaks out, and I'm the one who has to bring her back to recover just so she can go back to the same thing. And recently I found out that she has been with his other kids mother. She lives in a one bedrm with 3 children, so my daughter sleeps on the floor in the living room. I suggested that my daughter and her children she stay at their father's home for the weekend he has her. But still he will not comply so I've decided that he can't get his daughter until we go back to court.

Is this wrong? Can I go around the court system even though this is his weekend to get her? What should I do?

She don't have to sleep on the floor at home why should she have to do it at someone elses home.

Of course your daughter is changing, she is trying to adjust to spending weekends somewhere other than home, if you are worried about the sleeping arrangements, spend 20 bucks on a good inflatable mattress and pump that she can keep at dad's. In the meantime, I would suggest that you listen to the other posters regarding contempt for denying his visitation, or she may be spending the weekends at your house, and the rest of the week elsewhere. Start being a mom, this means putting your own feelings aside and doing EVERYTHING to make the visits at dad's house work.

 

[nextwife]

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[fairisfair]

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Wow, you went for the fancy schmancy bed. You ARE a good mom!!

 

[moburkes]

You're not kidding. Like you said earlier, kids like sleeping on the floor. Also, my local Rite Aid (I think) had them on sale for $19.99.

 

[Silverplum]

Also at Sears, $19.99.

And our kids had a personal preference for sofas. Still do. In fact, I still wonder why we bought the last set of mattresses for their rooms -- they slept so much on the sofas, the mattresses were basically a waste of $$. When they come home on leave, they still sleep on sofas. Better than sand, better than whatever you get in the service.