Visitation

[DLRB41]

Is it Missouri Law that if a Parent doesn't exercise their visitation with their children, then they are in contempt of court for failure to exercise their Visitation???

If my Children's Father doesn't want to have his children for the 6 week's in the Summer, Can I make him at least pay for the Summer Camp for the 6 week's?

 

[freeride]

contempt of court ??

i have heard this statement>>>
you[can] make the cp [give] visitations..
you[cannot] make the ncp [take] visitations..
the cp [cannot] move w/o permission..
the ncp [can] move anytime,anywhere..
DOESNT SOUND LIKE THE CP'S HAVE MUCH RIGHTS
ncp have more [rights] than the cp..
anyone here with some input on how the cp's gets more [rights]

 

[LegalBeagle]

Re: contempt of court ??

i have heard this statement>>>
you[can] make the cp [give] visitations..
you[cannot] make the ncp [take] visitations..
the cp [cannot] move w/o permission..
the ncp [can] move anytime,anywhere..
DOESNT SOUND LIKE THE CP'S HAVE MUCH RIGHTS
ncp have more [rights] than the cp..
anyone here with some input on how the cp's gets more [rights]

Hang on here.. if the NCP does not exercise visitation then the CP gets to spend more time with the child. Exactly what is so bad about that?

 

[Ukiah]

If my Children's Father doesn't want to have his children for the 6 week's in the Summer, Can I make him at least pay for the Summer Camp for the 6 week's?

What do you think Child Support is for?

Extracurricular activities ARE included in CS. And as I see it, that is an extracurricular activity as well as childcare...

 

[jb8849]

Dollars and sense

Yes, child support includes extracurricular activities. However, if someone is supposed to take the children for for a month during the summer and doesn't, it will always be more expensive for the custodial parent. The custodial parent is already not compensated for so many things. It's hard to remain a good parent without an emotional break too.

My ex-husband says he's going to "try" and take the boys for part of the summer. What if I only tried to support them, love them, or provide for them? It's back to the level of responsibility issue. You can't make someone be responsible for children and it seems that the courts won't either.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response:

The above is a perfect answer and response. Absolutely correct.

Nice job.

IAAL

 

[LegalBeagle]

Re: Dollars and sense

It's hard to remain a good parent without an emotional break too.

This is a sign of the society we are in today. You would never have heard the above quote from a parent 40 years ago..

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response:

You're undoubtedly correct. Although my parents never said it in those words, we still went to camp, or took trips to the mountains, or some other vacation spot. But, it all meant the same thing.

Only now are we "voicing" it like this.

("Get that damn kid out of here, before I shoot him ! ! ")

IAAL

 

[SockGirl]

They are?

I was actually a bit surpised to hear it said that extra curricular activites are included in child support. Is it actually written somewhere that this is true? I have gotten conflicting responses from legal counsel on this one. Is this state specific? If so what is the response for the poster's state... MO.

 

[freeride]

if the NCP does not exercise

the ncp's[choose] to exercise their visitation[rights] so if they choose to not show[or go by set times] for a few months,then so be it,the courts see it this way..nothing the cp's can do but grant visits whenever the ncp's decide to exercise it..
and at that given time the cp's cannot deny visits no matter how many visits missed,or how long it has been[weeks/months] since the ncp's have exercised their visits.doesnt seem right!!!!!!the ncp's come and go in the childs life///

>>anyone with input on the cp's rights please post/is there [anything] a cp can do about a ncp constantly missing [set times] for visits?????

 

[BugHogan]

CP's have the FAR better deal than NCP's. And a lot more "rights" too. My fiance/common-law husband is the custodial Dad to his son. He had to struggle, scrimp and save just to get by feeding and clothing his son without support from Mom. We had to get by with a tiny, 700 square foot house, old junky cars and no vacations to be able to support him. We rarely got any "breaks" from parenting, because Mom rarely exercised her visitation rights.

I wouldn't trade it for the world, and he's not even my blood. We got to be there for every "first", we got to go to all those choir concerts, baseball games, basketball games, conferences, school plays, etc. We got to eat dinner with him every night and tuck him into bed. When we finally could go on a vacation, we got to take him with. We got to watch him grow into a fine, loving, wonderful young man.

Mom is the one who missed out, BIG TIME.

Financially "punishing" the Dad for not taking the child for summer is not the way to go. He is already punishing himself by not spending time with the child when he can, only he doesn't know it yet. Child support is supposed to include extracurricular activities, the other half is supposed to be supplied by the custodial parent. If you can't afford the camp, enjoy the extra time you get to spend with your son. They grow up too fast.

 

[MySonsMom]

Is it Missouri Law that if a Parent doesn't exercise their visitation with their children, then they are in contempt of court for failure to exercise their Visitation???

If my Children's Father doesn't want to have his children for the 6 week's in the Summer, Can I make him at least pay for the Summer Camp for the 6 week's?

You cannot force a parent to excercise any of their rights. So, as a custodial parent; you pick up the slack *if* the non custodial parents chooses not to hold up their end. It's all part of being a custodial parent.