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Waiting for a PO

#1
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? IN

My wife has filed a PO on me in IN she lives 4 hours away and i have really not spoken to her unless trying to speak about divorce etc. we have not lived with one another for over 60 days we also have been married for less then a year. She filed this on the 3/29/2018 i have not been served i found out from a friend and i have not spoken to her since i am coming to see now she has filed another on me now which is in 35-45-2-2(a)(4)(A)/MB: Harassment by using a computer network or other form of electronic commun. Citation# MC180400020 Statute 35-45-2-2(a)(4)(A) Degree MB. Again i have not been served as well she did this when we lived together and the other PO was dismissed because she committed perjury lied on the court docs and modified a friend letter etc. She is also friends with my 1st ex wife its very crazy. I do not know what to do any advice would be great. I am getting back off my feet and been back in the work force for a few months now i was laid off back in oct. So i do not have 1 grand to come up with for an attorney.

I have not been served yet. As of Monday when i found out i stopped speaking to her.
 


Shadowbunny

Queen of the Not-Rights
#2
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? IN

My wife has filed a PO on me in IN she lives 4 hours away and i have really not spoken to her unless trying to speak about divorce etc. we have not lived with one another for over 60 days we also have been married for less then a year. She filed this on the 3/29/2018 i have not been served i found out from a friend and i have not spoken to her since i am coming to see now she has filed another on me now which is in 35-45-2-2(a)(4)(A)/MB: Harassment by using a computer network or other form of electronic commun. Citation# MC180400020 Statute 35-45-2-2(a)(4)(A) Degree MB. Again i have not been served as well she did this when we lived together and the other PO was dismissed because she committed perjury lied on the court docs and modified a friend letter etc. She is also friends with my 1st ex wife its very crazy. I do not know what to do any advice would be great. I am getting back off my feet and been back in the work force for a few months now i was laid off back in oct. So i do not have 1 grand to come up with for an attorney.

I have not been served yet. As of Monday when i found out i stopped speaking to her.
First thing: if you are doing ANYTHING that can be construed as harassment, stop it. Stop it now. No emailing, texting, calling, FB stalking. No contact at all.

Next, when and if you get served, make sure you show up for the hearing. You don't HAVE to have an attorney, but one can certainly be helpful.

Finally, when you show up to the hearing, dress in clean, neat clothes. Nothing with obscenities or vulgarities. If you smoke, try not to reek of it when you go into court. Call the Judge "your honor" or "Sir/Ma'am." If you don't have an attorney, try to show up early enough to watch some other hearings so you'll know what to expect. That will also calm your nerves. Do NOT Be Late.

Also, don't try to dodge service. That's not going to help you in the long run.
 
#3
I am 4 hours away i just cant take off work what do I do? She was blocked on Monday when i looked it up myself i am stating that is the day i found out about the PO playing it safe because i still have yet to be served.
 

HRZ

Senior Member
#6
it may be smarter and cheaper in long run to appear in court at the set time , prepared for the matter at hand.

Smarter still to use counsel in that distant location ..even if you borrow the funds ...
 
#7
I have had no communication with this person i use to call my wife since Monday when i found the PO was real i have not been served but i know you don't talk or communicate with anyone until after the hearing pending on how the hearing goes. I need to hire an attorney just because i cant take off work like that. I do not even have a hearing date. i know its an EPO. What does not add up is we have not lived together for over 60 days now. I moved on got a new gf she knows all the craziness etc. Just want this to be done.
 

not2cleverRed

Obvious Observer
#9
I have had no communication with this person i use to call my wife since Monday when i found the PO was real i have not been served but i know you don't talk or communicate with anyone until after the hearing pending on how the hearing goes. I need to hire an attorney just because i cant take off work like that. I do not even have a hearing date. i know its an EPO. What does not add up is we have not lived together for over 60 days now. I moved on got a new gf she knows all the craziness etc. Just want this to be done.
Do you have a lawyer for the divorce? If not, then you need one, beg or borrow if necessary. All communications about the divorce should go through the lawyer.

I concur with stealth that until a divorce is finalized, getting romantic with someone else is ill-advised, legally and emotionally.

I also think it ill advised to use your case number and real name here.
 
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