wanting to move, now EX is fighting for custody

[tumblewic]

Nebraska

I am trying to move from NE to WI, now my X-husband is fighting for custody. I NEED HELP!! can't afford att.
I am trying to move to Wisconsin where my fiance lives, my X is a truck driver and is home 1-2 days a week and when he does have my 11 1/2 year old daughter he is with his mom or my daughter's Godparents, he never really has to take care of her. I am not saying he is a bad father, just not ever around. I filed to move to Wisconsin, now he countersuing me for custody. I was in a car wreck in Nov, and still can not work. I am in the middle of waiting on long term disability to make their decsion. Also the reason for the move to Wisconsin is my FIANCE' boys live there too, there is NOTHING here for me where we live and it would be bettering both of our lives to move. My daughter would love it, she wants to move and she has written an affidavate and is begging her dad to let her go and not be mad at her for wanting to go, also we need more medical help and where we live now, we have to drive 2 1/2 hours to be able to even SEE a specialist, where we would be living we would have a 5 minute drive. The visitation that I put in my motion is that she would see her father a MIN. of every 3- 5 weeks, and 6 weeks in the summer and 1/2 of all other holidays. I am NOT trying to cut off their relationship in any way shape or form. I am a good mother. I have NO family here where we are living, and the ONLY reason that I stayed here was because my X refused to move anywhere while we were married. I also have many more opportunities to get better paying jobs in Wisconsin, and my daughter will have the fine arts in WI, where here are none

 

[Ohiogal]

Your ex sees the child regularly?
Who pays transportation back to dad? You put in the plan that pay all transportation, correct? Or you credit dad's child support the amount that transportation would cost? Could cost?

 

[Silverplum]

Nebraska

I am trying to move from NE to WI, now my X-husband is fighting for custody. I NEED HELP!! can't afford att.
I am trying to move to Wisconsin where my fiance lives, my X is a truck driver and is home 1-2 days a week and when he does have my 11 1/2 year old daughter he is with his mom or my daughter's Godparents, he never really has to take care of her. I am not saying he is a bad father, just not ever around. I filed to move to Wisconsin, now he countersuing me for custody. I was in a car wreck in Nov, and still can not work. I am in the middle of waiting on long term disability to make their decsion. Also the reason for the move to Wisconsin is my FIANCE' boys live there too, there is NOTHING here for me where we live and it would be bettering both of our lives to move. My daughter would love it, she wants to move and she has written an affidavate and is begging her dad to let her go and not be mad at her for wanting to go, also we need more medical help and where we live now, we have to drive 2 1/2 hours to be able to even SEE a specialist, where we would be living we would have a 5 minute drive. The visitation that I put in my motion is that she would see her father a MIN. of every 3- 5 weeks, and 6 weeks in the summer and 1/2 of all other holidays. I am NOT trying to cut off their relationship in any way shape or form. I am a good mother. I have NO family here where we are living, and the ONLY reason that I stayed here was because my X refused to move anywhere while we were married. I also have many more opportunities to get better paying jobs in Wisconsin, and my daughter will have the fine arts in WI, where here are none

First, I am going to mock you for saying that there are NO "fine arts" in Nebraska. I laugh and point at you and say, "See the lady who said a doofus thing? Ha!"

I mean, really. Take THAT one off your "list o' wrongs" because it is NOT gonna cut it in court.

Secondly, your latest boyfriend/fiance/even husband has NOTHING to do with the children or the court order/s, or their father or any legal decisions.

So take HIM off the table.

Whatcha got left?

 

[bugsmom18]

Whatcha got left?

Not much at all. lol Except the 11.5 yo's affadavit wanting to move. Why does this kid even know about the move? I didn't even tell my 6 yo that she MIGHT stay all night with her gp's on dad's day until I spoke to him about it! (and dad is the one who spilled the beans to kiddo) Granted it's a big difference to move as opposed to stay all night but my point is (yep, I have one) kids know WAY TOO MUCH about adult worries/situations. Please keep the kids out of it.

 

[Ohiogal]

Not much at all. lol Except the 11.5 yo's affadavit wanting to move. Why does this kid even know about the move? I didn't even tell my 6 yo that she MIGHT stay all night with her gp's on dad's day until I spoke to him about it! (and dad is the one who spilled the beans to kiddo) Granted it's a big difference to move as opposed to stay all night but my point is (yep, I have one) kids know WAY TOO MUCH about adult worries/situations. Please keep the kids out of it.

I am agreeing with the newbie!
Not to mention what i said earlier. Not to mention what Silver said.

 

[Zephyr]

First, I am going to mock you for saying that there are NO "fine arts" in Nebraska. I laugh and point at you and say, "See the lady who said a doofus thing? Ha!"

I mean, really. Take THAT one off your "list o' wrongs" because it is NOT gonna cut it in court.

Secondly, your latest boyfriend/fiance/even husband has NOTHING to do with the children or the court order/s, or their father or any legal decisions.

So take HIM off the table.

Whatcha got left?

I wonder what "fine arts" she's talking about?

the house down the street painted bright green and gold by a packer fanatic?

the house made of beer cans?

must be the lumberjack competitions

or cow tipping excursions (really what child can grow up without experiencing this?)

no- it MUST be the art of taking beautiful wildlife and turning it (either by stuffing or skinning) into wall art and home decor......

 

[stealth2]

Okay, not to be snarky, but..... what "fine arts" does WI have that NE doesn't? I mean... if you were talking NYC, Boston, Seattle, SF, Chicago... I would get that. But... WI? Seriously? Is WI the newest hotbed for artists? I need to know this!

 

[Zephyr]

Okay, not to be snarky, but..... what "fine arts" does WI have that NE doesn't? I mean... if you were talking NYC, Boston, Seattle, SF... I would get that. But... WI? Seriously? Is WI the newest hotbed for artists? I need to know this!

stealth right above your post is the wisconsin fine art list...enjoy

 

[LdiJ]

Despite all of the silly stuff...lets break it down.

Dad is apparently a long haul trucker who is apparently only home 1 or 2 days a week. That makes it very difficult, if not impossible, for a judge to justify awarding primary custody to dad.

Since a judge can only deny the move if the judge can justify awarding primary custody to dad, its quite possible that a judge would allow mom to move with the child....subject to mom being responsible for providing transportation for very generous visitation for dad.

Look, no one is going to agree that mom morally in the right to move their children so far away to be with a fiance. However legal reality is that a judge can't stop mom from moving with the kids unless the judge can justify giving custody to dad.