what am i entitled to?

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I live in Massachusettes and have been married over 6 years. My husband and I are talking divorce. He owned our house before we were married. We refinanced 3 years ago and now my name is on the house as well. I've been contributing to the bills until I recently decided to change careers. (Husbands didn't like what I did) Anyway, I've been in school since January 2000 in the meantime paying about 500 a month, supplying groceries and recently recarpeted the whole upstairs and painted. I feel i"ve put into this marriage and would like a reasonable amount. Why it always comes to money I don't know. I have put my blood sweat and tears into this house and marriage. I really don't want a divorce but realize it is inevitable. Now I just want my fair share. What exactly am I entitled to?I'm not working, but still pay bills. I have my own money which has given me the opportunity not to feel so helpless or dependant on my husband. I don't want the house but I do want to be compensated for the time and money i've put into the home and marriage. Could I get alimony, keep his insurance benefits for some time. I really need some answers. I'm not ready to talk to a lawyer. I need to research that area as well. Thank you!

 

[Kelly143]

Is your name on the title to the house, or just the mortgage?

 

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my name is on both the title and the mortgage.

 

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you know the thing is I don't want a divorce. I just want my husband to make me the priority. We recently lost A LOVING pet, we have no kids (neither of us want any) and i've been going through a major transition in my life with job change, and returning to school to learn another trade, I would just for once appreciate it if my husband made me the priority. He really is a good man. He's just not very considerate of my feelings, and i'm NOT being overly sensitive either. I've basically changed my life. Not that it was bad before, it wasn't it's just that i HAD a job that kept me away for 8 months a year. . This has been a huge transitional period for me. I'm excited and anxious about my future. I love my husband but we literaly but heads. wE are both independant and head strong. both married at 33 with no other marriages or kids..I think there is no fix for us. HE REFUSES to see a marriage councelor. I've begged him. I just want to protect my fair share now, and although i'm not ready to move on just yet, I know that I must. Please someone, what am i entitled to?

 

[Kelly143]

You are legally entitled to half the house since your name is on it. The courts will probably make you sell it, or make him buy you out of your half. Make sure the mortgage gets refinanced so you aren't responsible for the payments anymore.
From personal experience, I wouldn't give up just yet. You seem like you really want to work things out. Keep in mind that this might be as big of a transitional time for your husband as well. He just might need as much from you as you need from him. I wish you the best of luck!

 

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we did refinance the home 3 years ago. Thank you for your reply.


more than anything I would like to have this relationship work out BUT I need him to be a bit more concerned about me instead of kayaking, judo, bike riding etc. ...
I love that he is so active and busy. I just need some support from him more than ever and feel terribly Vulnerable due to lack of job, my transition, our dog dying and just lack of support. I will not hold on like a winey woman. I am strong and will move on.I know it won't be easy but know that it won't hurt forever. Losing him will hurt as he is a wonderful person. but very selfish and consumed with a paranoya that people will find out he';s not perfect. Although he is not, he's pretty close! I do love him but know I will not settle. I need more from him than he's willing to give. If you think being with me at least one night a week to just hang out with me and do whatever, cuddle, shop, watch tv bike ride, go for a hike or etc.............