My wife divorced me in California. I'll try to sum this up as much as possible. Ex military with secret clearance, wife accused me of sexual assault based on our honeymoon where she ended up with a tear in her vagina (was consentual) -> no evidence released to military -> she took back her statements -> still less than honorably discharged got out on a technicality (I can upgrade it in 1 year). (left me because she was banging her OBGYN, she told me but I have no proof on him). Unemployed -> divorced me -> threatened to re-accuse me with the medical report from her doctor -> wanted full custody -> agreed out of court on $300/mo until she remarries and $400 child support. (was still in military and under ucmj fear) Divorce finalized, I get a job paying $33.65/hr. It's overseas contracting so I can make upwards of $200,000. She finds out, She can't live off of the $700 I give her. She's full time college student, so am I. She refuses to work is collecting FAFSA for school, state welfare, cash assistance, EBT and mediCAL. She doesn't claim that I pay her child support to state of California because that would not qualify her for the state benefits. I have been paying for my and my son's health insurance since I got out of the military. She has been double dipping the state. She has not been compliant with child services to turn in the decree so they will garnish her funds until it stops. She now wants me to sign a notarized statement that I will give her $1800/mo child support (300+1800, says she can get me for more.)(no way in hell) or she will re-accuse me. I will lose my secret clearance and my overseas job if she does. I technically only make $70,000 a year if I were to work full time stateside. My contract overseas is not guaranteed. I currently pay all of her bills in addition to what she receives from the state. I have zero custody as I agreed to it while I was in the military still under the thumb of UCMJ. She just lost 25% of her benefits and is pushing me to sign. Things about her, She has been medically diagnosed with bipolar, ocd, depression and anxiety. She has tried 3 times to claim to the state of Kansas and California that she is mentally unfit to hold a job in the past. She has also a suicide attempt on record. She's the greatest mother to our son but she's reaching since I already pay all her bills. What are my chances on gaining custody with out getting screwed? I have a military sworn statement from of her saying that I didn't sexually assault her as it was all consensual but she never submitted that doctors report.
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