What is the name of your state? I’m in Indiana. Parents are in Colorado
Mom (86) is very frail and just returned from rehab after a fall with a broken rib and pelvis. Dad (91) is diagnosed with moderate to severe dementia. Dad needs to be in memory care and mom needs to be in assisted living. We (me and 5 siblings) are unable to do anything because mom has medical POA and has not been diagnosed as incapable. She’s physically frail and unable to care for herself, but mentally okay. Mom and dad want to live in their house and be left alone but they cannot adequately take care of each other. I see 2 options: 1) We continue to press mom’s drs to declare her incapable and literally FORCE them out of the house into assisted living /memory care or 2), Leave them alone, check on them when we can and wait for the inevitable catastrophe when one of them is severely injured or dies and can’t get immediate help. They both have long term health insurance and have the means to afford any kind of long term care necessary. Any recommendations would be appreciated.
Mom (86) is very frail and just returned from rehab after a fall with a broken rib and pelvis. Dad (91) is diagnosed with moderate to severe dementia. Dad needs to be in memory care and mom needs to be in assisted living. We (me and 5 siblings) are unable to do anything because mom has medical POA and has not been diagnosed as incapable. She’s physically frail and unable to care for herself, but mentally okay. Mom and dad want to live in their house and be left alone but they cannot adequately take care of each other. I see 2 options: 1) We continue to press mom’s drs to declare her incapable and literally FORCE them out of the house into assisted living /memory care or 2), Leave them alone, check on them when we can and wait for the inevitable catastrophe when one of them is severely injured or dies and can’t get immediate help. They both have long term health insurance and have the means to afford any kind of long term care necessary. Any recommendations would be appreciated.