What can I do now?

[ohiomomof3]

What is the name of your state?Ohio
I have court ordered support which is owed to me. Its arrearages have gotten up past 10,000, and most recently, I recieved about 3 payments. (For the year) It took me forever to get his information to my caseworker. He has had several jobs that they have confirmed, yet by the time we contacted said employers, he had moved on. Recently, his brother passed away. His brother paid him under the table for a few years with his tree service company. Now he is claiming he is running the business. Is there any way for me to prove this? I know each job runs at least $1000, usually $3000, and he can't be legally licensed or insured to even operate this business. He doesn't even have a driver's license. I know when I tried before through the county to prove his employment they said there was nothing they could do if he is paid by cash. What about cashing checks for the company? I know his family would gladly do so for him to avoid payments. He was granted supervised visitation last year and they all have much anger towards me. He hasn't had a visit with our son in over a year now. He thinks its all about the money, but what he doesn't understand is, his ordered support wouldn't even cover childcare expenses I pay weekly.

 

[nextwife]

What about cashing checks for the company?

Well, I deposit checks worth millions of dollars on behalf of the company I work for, but not a penny of those dollars are mine or involve me legally as a party. I'm only a co-signatory for moving the funds around to closings. I have no ownership or legal right to the funds I courier. Being able to sign checks does NOT make one an owner or beneficiary of the funds.

 

[ohiomomof3]

So, is ther eany way to prove he is the sole beneficiary of this business?

Ohio
He has a couple of guys working with him, but the equiptment is all paid for, as is the advertising. So basically, he can claim that he makes whatever he wants then, am I right?! This is nuts! I can't get any kind of assistance it seems because I do work and support my kids, rather than being a mooch. They always average in my support as well, even though Inever get it. What would you recommend?

 

[Content]

What I would recommend is probably not going to be the most popular answer but get your act together so that you aren't depending on the money every month. He's always going to owe it but as long as he's skirting the law that doesn't give the CS office the right to break the law to try to collect, they have rules and laws that they must follow to enforce the order and unfortunantly if he's skirting the law then there isn't much you can do. Sorry.

 

[ohiomomof3]

Well, considering I have gotten a whopping amount of $ 286 this year, I hardly would say I have relied on it. I work my butt off, 60+hrs a week, and I do think he should be able to contribute. Did I mention I have three children that I support? Yes, I made the decision to have them, and I love them. I was not alone in the creation process. They do deserve more, and I can only do so much. The NCP in this case has been nothing but trouble both during and following our relationship. It would be a great world if all could just get along and do the right thing, but some of us want to be terminally juvenile and think they can play daddy when it seems fit. I have tried counseling, and yes, I paid for it all. He chose the bars, but likes to use his child as a tool to get sympathy.

 

[Content]

Hey I never said it was fair, but like I said the CS people have to follow the laws. As long as your ex is able to figure out how to skirt the law he will get away, your only option is to keep trying to enforce the order. Yes he owes the money, but whether you actually see it or not is a whole different matter. Since he doesn't have a license anymore has he stopped driving? Probably not, so that gives you an indication that he's not the most responsible of people, only so much you can expect, just decide how much of your time and energy your going to waste heavily pursuing him, then once that amount of energy is spent count your $200 and go do something fun with the kids, then next time the trouble starts up go back to the same frustrating attempts. I am assuming that you are having the case go through CSE correct? If so keep hounding your case worker with phone calls, letters and office visits to drive them nuts and hopefully make them want to get rid of you badly enough that they keep hounding him until he pays.

 

[ohiomomof3]

I have been, and thank you. I try to do as much as I can with the kids. He has been on this neverending list for contempt for going on a year now. She says the courts are full, which I can believe, and it has been much more peaceful not dealing with all of the drama that goes with it. It just upsets me that he can profit so much, without thinking his child may be in need of something. They have all that they need, we still get help from local organizations, the state hasn't been helpful really because of what income I do have. It just would be nice , especially when I supported him (NCP) so long while trying to get him the help he needed. It's all a big learning process I guess, I just hope my son doesn't have to suffer anymore for my mistakes. I do hope for the day when he (NCP) realizes that he's missing out, that it isn't all about the money, and that thy only grow up once. He can be a beautiful person when he is on meds and not drinking. Three kids are enough though, he needs more than I can offer.