what day this week?!

[alldamday]

Hello!
I am a father to a 18mo. old daughter. Her mother and myself never married and now don't get along. It is very hard to try and deal with this woman. But I try for my daughter.
I am doing the court ordered staged visitation process. I am in the stage where I am allowed to pick her up One time per week from 10-6. I work Mon-Sat. so naturally I need to do this on Sundays. The papers don't specify what day this should be on it just says I have the right one time per week from 10-6. The mother always comes up with some excuse of plans that she wants me to do it on another day.
Seeing that I want a regular visit on Sunday every week can she just not be home or tell me I have to do this on another day? When I take my daughter home this Sunday I am going to tell her I will be back the next Sunday. I have sent her a certified letter stating I will be coming on Sunday the next seven weeks after this week. That way she cannot just not be home and say she didnt know I was coming. Am I right in thinking she cant tell me I cant do this every Sunday?
If I say I am coming Sunday next week and dont show up until then isnt it my right to take her? I am permitted One time per week. Can she tell me I have to do this another day?

 

[alldamday]

Anyone up to bat on this one before I have to go home from work away from my computer??? I could reallly use this advice before this weekend! Thanks=)

 

[Ukiah]

Hello!
Am I right in thinking she cant tell me I cant do this every Sunday?
If I say I am coming Sunday next week and dont show up until then isnt it my right to take her? I am permitted One time per week. Can she tell me I have to do this another day?

She can tell you anything she wants. It's up to you as the father taking an active interest in his child's life that you take her to mediation to get a specific day to see your child. Otherwise, she'll keep doing this to you. You can also ask her what day would be good for her to pick up the baby.

As her parent you have the right to see her, but also you are to try and get along with the mother, whether you want to or not. Married before or not, you still have to COMPROMISE with her. Start there.

I commend you on wanting and being a part of your daughter's life. If she is 18 months old, you should be able to take her for longer periods of time. Though the child needs consistency, she will adapt to being at both homes, and getting to know both parents.

I think that by your telling her in advance that you are going to be there on a specific day(s), gives you more credibility. If for some reason, she doesn't agree with your trying to keep a consistant plan, then you should go to court (mediation), and ask for a more specific time and day, or two weekends a month.

It's not going to be easy, but my suggestion to you is to come to some agreements where your baby is concerned with the mom. If you can do it out of court, great!, if not, then get it all in writing. ALWAYS KEEP RECORDS!

 

[alldamday]

Sorry it took so long to respond. I do try and get along with the mother. What she does is try and make this happen a different day each week. I need a set day so I can make plans ahead of time for myself and my daughter and her family on my side. The mother knows I get one day a week from 10-6 for the next eight weeks. You would think she could see it coming and just not plan anything on that day seeing that she gets to have her every other day of the week! I work Monday thru Saturday and there is no one who can take my place. I work an ungodly ammount of hours to make ends meet with child support. Not that I mind-but on my day off is the only day I can exercise my visitation right. The mother knows this.
Since the papers state that I have the right to have a 10-6 one day per week and I picked my child up last Sunday-I would still be within my right to tell mom I will be back next week same day and not come until then and theres not a whole lot she can do, right? Because by certified mail she knows I will be there that day-so she cant just not be home and say I didnt know you were coming today-plus this is the seventh day of the week and I have a 10-6 I can exercise. See what I mean? Let me know if I am thinking correctly or I am missing something.

 

[LadyBlu]

Hello!
I am a father to a 18mo. old daughter. Her mother and myself never married and now don't get along. It is very hard to try and deal with this woman. But I try for my daughter.
I am doing the court ordered staged visitation process. I am in the stage where I am allowed to pick her up One time per week from 10-6. I work Mon-Sat. so naturally I need to do this on Sundays. The papers don't specify what day this should be on it just says I have the right one time per week from 10-6. The mother always comes up with some excuse of plans that she wants me to do it on another day.
Seeing that I want a regular visit on Sunday every week can she just not be home or tell me I have to do this on another day? When I take my daughter home this Sunday I am going to tell her I will be back the next Sunday. I have sent her a certified letter stating I will be coming on Sunday the next seven weeks after this week. That way she cannot just not be home and say she didnt know I was coming. Am I right in thinking she cant tell me I cant do this every Sunday?
If I say I am coming Sunday next week and dont show up until then isnt it my right to take her? I am permitted One time per week. Can she tell me I have to do this another day?

You really need to work on getting your story straight Jamiet..

You have went from working, (according to this post) on Mon-Sat, then on the next thread you say m-f.

ohhhh, and also, it is a no brainer that you have switched from PA to Ohio laws in the past, and also not many people would put:Biography: Locationa
Occupation:working father
Interests:seeing my child

 

[alldamday]

I don't know what you are talking about but I live in Pa! I also explained my work schedule on the other post. I didn't know you had such a big interest of my work schedule. The point of my post being i need my only day OFF to see my child is SUnday. Get it?

 

[Ukiah]

I don't know what you are talking about but I live in Pa! I also explained my work schedule on the other post. I didn't know you had such a big interest of my work schedule. The point of my post being i need my only day OFF to see my child is SUnday. Get it?

It's plain and simple to see that you NEED to go to MEDIATION to get some ground rules set with the X. Put everything in writing, and have a copy present with you when you pick the child up. If she doesn't abide by it then make a poilce report, take her to court, and file charges with the D.A. if you don't take action, she will continue to control you, as she is now.