what do you think will happen?

[beth123]

What is the name of your state? Iowa

This is sort of long, so please bare with me...

My husband learned at a convention last year that his ex wife had been doing meth in front of her 3 children. She has 3 kids by 3 different fathers. My husband has 1 child age 9, they were married 2 years. My husband is a deputy sheriff.

The other law enforcement officer that he knew told him that he was at his EX's house because someone in her apartment complex called DHS on her for using drugs. When the DHS worker and the officer went to her home, she appeared high as a kite and had just sprayed air freshener. Her boyfriend at the time has blood shot eyes and also appeared high, but told the worker that they had been fighting and that he was crying. what a line of crap!

She refused drug testing that day, but was ordered to test all three of her kids...and guess what? all 3 tested positive for meth! She thought up a great lie and told the worker that she left the children in the care of her druggie sister and that is how her kids were exposed.

We went to court with DHS treating us like WE were the drug addict and she was the pristine one. The court left all 3 kids in her care. She HAD a steady boyfriend who has pending drug charge against him. She has a child with this guy also. She now see's him on occassion.

In the meanwhile, she broke up with the father of her last child, and now goes to the bars on a regular basis. She has numerous boyfriends in which stay at her home with her and her 3 kids regularly..unfortunatly, none of the guys are regulars...

DHS ordered manditory drug testing, in which we have not seen any results from her tests. That was in November.

My question is, what do you think the outcome will be when we go to court this month? We are seeking custody of my husbands 9 year old.

we are concerned that she will never have to face the music on this one because it has been so long...almost a year because the attorneys couldnt seem to figure out a date to get together.

We have documented everything that we have witnessed in the last year..including my step son wearing girls clothes! We have witnesses that will testify that she has been hanging out at the local bar and the kids teachers have just about had it with her because she has kept him out of school for a total of 20 days this school year.

I should also say that we are a happily married couple for 2 years. I have 3 children who live with me and neither of us have ever been introuble with DHS. I work part time so there is always someone home to be with the kids. kids are well adjusted.

EX wife doesnt work and never has even held down a job. She has no checking account and is not financially stable as she relys on child support to support her drug and alcohol habit. She has never purchased the kids coats, haircuts, or even shoes for that fact!
Any thoughts?

Thanks-
Beth

 

[casa]

What is the name of your state? Iowa

This is sort of long, so please bare with me...

My husband learned at a convention last year that his ex wife had been doing meth in front of her 3 children. She has 3 kids by 3 different fathers. My husband has 1 child age 9, they were married 2 years. My husband is a deputy sheriff.

The other law enforcement officer that he knew told him that he was at his EX's house because someone in her apartment complex called DHS on her for using drugs. When the DHS worker and the officer went to her home, she appeared high as a kite and had just sprayed air freshener. Her boyfriend at the time has blood shot eyes and also appeared high, but told the worker that they had been fighting and that he was crying. what a line of crap!

She refused drug testing that day, but was ordered to test all three of her kids...and guess what? all 3 tested positive for meth! She thought up a great lie and told the worker that she left the children in the care of her druggie sister and that is how her kids were exposed.

We went to court with DHS treating us like WE were the drug addict and she was the pristine one. The court left all 3 kids in her care. She HAD a steady boyfriend who has pending drug charge against him. She has a child with this guy also. She now see's him on occassion.

In the meanwhile, she broke up with the father of her last child, and now goes to the bars on a regular basis. She has numerous boyfriends in which stay at her home with her and her 3 kids regularly..unfortunatly, none of the guys are regulars...

DHS ordered manditory drug testing, in which we have not seen any results from her tests. That was in November.

My question is, what do you think the outcome will be when we go to court this month? We are seeking custody of my husbands 9 year old.

we are concerned that she will never have to face the music on this one because it has been so long...almost a year because the attorneys couldnt seem to figure out a date to get together.

We have documented everything that we have witnessed in the last year..including my step son wearing girls clothes! We have witnesses that will testify that she has been hanging out at the local bar and the kids teachers have just about had it with her because she has kept him out of school for a total of 20 days this school year.

I should also say that we are a happily married couple for 2 years. I have 3 children who live with me and neither of us have ever been introuble with DHS. I work part time so there is always someone home to be with the kids. kids are well adjusted.

EX wife doesnt work and never has even held down a job. She has no checking account and is not financially stable as she relys on child support to support her drug and alcohol habit. She has never purchased the kids coats, haircuts, or even shoes for that fact!
Any thoughts?

Thanks-
Beth

Gather all reports and documentation re; the children testing positive for meth. Even if she claims it was while in the care of her druggie sister, she still left them in the druggies care. It sounds like your husband has a good case. You should also point out the mother has not complied with ordered drug testing and you fear the she is still using and the children are not safe.

File declarations from any teachers, neighbors, family members etc. who have witnessed the mother's erratic behavior. contact the school and have the father get the child's attendance records. File everything.

You can ask for a GAL, CASA or minor's counsel to be assigned to represent the best interest of the child.

The major obstacle will be that the courts do not like to separate siblings.

 

[beth123]

what is a GAL or CASA?

 

[casa]

what is a GAL or CASA?

G.uardian A.d L.item or C.ourt A.ppointed S.pecial A.dvocate Look up your states Family Law Code and do a search, you will be able to read what their guidelines are.

 

[beth123]

Thanks for your clarification. Actually, we are going to court for custody of this child. The GAL will not be present because we hired an attorney to represent us. We have found that this childs GAL truly works with DHS and would not benifit us because their interest is to reunite the child with the mother which is exactly the opposite of what we want to happen.

My question was, do you think after such a huge lapse of time, between the incident of her being high and the DHS visit last March and our court case this month will represent a problem in determining who will get custody of this child? We can only hope it is us, as I can see this child spiriling downward to a life filled with men who come and go, and a selffish mother who can not even take her child across the street for him to participate in karate....she is trash and does not deserve the privledge of having children.

We have documented everything and we have witnessess. We are just concernd that courts may want to keep the kid with his 1/2 siblings and good-for-nothing mother.